Post # 1
I have had bad pain in my upper back/neck for a few years now, and one thing I hadn’t tried yet was acupuncture so I decided recently to go to a local practitioner and give it a try. The acupuncturist is a man–probably in his late 30s–and typically it is just him and I in the office when I go, or maybe one other person in a treatment room (just for context). He is very highly reviewed and I had been feeling pretty positive that things were improving at least a little bit.
This last time that I went, things had sort of taken two steps back and I was really hurting again, and I felt that he was kind of placing the blame on me for things I had done to cause that, and most of them were a stretch. He said that perhaps my hips were out of line and that “we (my husband and I) have to be cautious during…foreplay…that he doesn’t torque my hips around.” That was sort of strange, but ok, maybe relevant. Then a few minutes later I stook up so he could check my alignment and he says, “So couldthat be it? Did you guys do it?” I am no prude but made me SO uncomfortable. I kind of laughed it off and said no, but I was freaking out on the inside! He has not done anything inappropriate but I felt that was a very unprofessional way to phrase that.
Now I can’t decide if I should go back to him again, because I found that so odd. I don’t know if I am overreacting or if my feelings are justified. It also isn’t cheap, so if I’m not going to see good results (and be blamed for his treatment not working) it’s also tough to stick with it. How would you feel? Would you go back?
Post # 2
I don’t know, but I am big believer in just trusting your intuition. If you have an off feeling, maybe find someone else. My accupuncturist is a woman, and she has asked me very personal questions before, but they are related to what she is treating me for.
Post # 3
For sure, I don’t doubt that sometimes personal questions are necessary, it just seemed there might be a more professional way to ask about it that didn’t seem to…casual?
Post # 4
yeah, I would feel that way too. It may have been relevant, but if it did not feel professional, I would be cautious in the future. Maybe have a friend wait in the waiting room or something, and see how you feel next time? If you feel very uncomfortable though, just don’t go back.
Post # 5
If you were freaking out, your instincts are telling you something. That doesn’t mean he’s evil or that he has any kind of bad intentions, but I think it’s super important to listen to your gut. You don’t need our permission to feel uncomfortable. You don’t need concrete proof. Find someone else.
Post # 6
I would feel uncomfortable, too. The way he said those things was invasive and overly-familiar–not like someone who was speaking professionally out of clinical concern.
Go with your gut.
Post # 7
NO NO NO. not normal, listen to your gut.
Post # 8
I would not go back. The question was inappropriate. He did not need to know that.
Post # 9
Sounds weird to me! I’ve had many positive experiences with acupuncture-I’d find a different acupuncturist! That comment seems off to me, but even without that the fact that you felt he was placing the blame on you is NOT COOL! Find someone nicer and more professional, I’m sure they’re out there! Sounds like he doesn’t deserve your money or time.
Post # 10
No that is not right… he could have said be careful with twisting your hips and left it at that. Asking about your sex life is super creepy and gross
Post # 11
Trust your intuition… And don’t feel obligated to see him more.
5 years ago my hips just went out of line and I saw a physiotherapist. When he saw my hips he laughed a bit – I knew what he was thinking and he was right – and told me “well you should pay more attention to your hips”. And that’s all. He doesn’t make other comments and was very professional. He didn’t ask nasty questions. And I was fine.
When you see a acupuncturist you should feel at your ease…
Post # 12
Yeah not appropriate. I wouldn’t go back
Post # 13
Ew! I would never go to him again. That doesn’t sound right at all.
Post # 14
Totally not a normal comment from an acupuncturist! If he’s concerned about your hip alignment, then he should tell you that – it absolutely doesn’t matter what caused your hips to shift. He should have shut up and recommended yoga or something – not question you about your personal life. I recommend finding a different acupuncturist.
Post # 15
- Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom
I’ve been to accupuncture, physio, chiro, massage and naturopath before. I’ve gotten questions like that before because it CAN affect your health and alignment…especially in my case as I have Fibromyalgia, and was using accupuncture and naturopathic to assist with TTC. It’s all a matter of how they handle the phrasing, and how well you know them.
Like I got to know my naturopath/accupuncturist quite well, and they’d politely ask me questions, but they also knew I was TTC. My physio asked me a question once, but she handled it in a completely professional manner. Chiro never asked.
If it felt a little too forward then trust your gut and don’t go back.