(Closed) Odd dilemma

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 31
13967 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I can understand not wanting to waste big money on a temporary ring that won’t ultimately have any sentiment or symbolism attached to it. I would probably feel like Fiance on that account and prefer to wait until he could afford to replace it. 

What I can’t understand is why he thinks he has the right to dictate whether you can or can’t go out and buy an inexpensive place holder ring. Unless you know something more about his motives than you’re saying, my guess is the reason is he doesn’t want people to think he is cheap. He lost your ring, so I vote he gets no say.

TBH, I’d be most concerned about the controlling behavior he’s showing here, not the ring itself. You’d think he would be so contrite he’d jump at the chance to make you feel better in any way that would. 

Post # 32
634 posts
Busy bee

There is something off about this whole story. Buy a ring, wear it. Is he really going to be that upset or “lose” this one too? If so, him not wanting to get married sounds like a blessing in disguise.

Post # 33
1519 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

My DH proposed without a ring because he didn’t consider them to be important. I do. So after we had been engaged for about six months, I bought my engagement ring using some of my own money and some from DH. He loves it and now asks where it is if I ever take it off! I know this is not a universal statement but some men really do not get the symbolic importance of these things. 

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