(Closed) Odd invitation question…

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2493 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@MissNachoLover:  I have NO clue, but wanted to see the answer, out of curiousity. Good luck to the Cpt and Dr. Lt.’s invite!

Post # 4
1736 posts
Bumble bee

For couples where both spouses serve, you’ve got a few options depending on how much room you have on your envelopes and whether or not the couple serves in the same branch of the military:

Captains Jerome and Miranda Simonsen
U.S. Army

Captain Jerome Simonsen, U.S. Army
Captain Miranda Simonsen,U.S. Navy

The higher rank is listed first on the invite, regardless of gender. The “Doctor” title is for the exam room only – military etiquette is to address all personnel by rank. Hope this helps! 🙂

Post # 5
13288 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

This is what I found from google.  I would guess that it would be addressed to:

Lieutenant John and Captain Jane Smith

Ugh wow, this is a really hard one.  I would just follow the ranks unless she’s adamant that her doctor title also be used. 


  • 1

    Address the outer envelopes with full names and titles, such as Major and Mrs. John Smith. Avoid abbreviating military titles.

  • 2

    Address the inner envelope without using either person’s first name: Major and Mrs. Smith.

  • 3

    Use the title followed by both full names on the outer envelope if the husband and wife both have the same military rank and service: Captains Mark and Joan Brown. In this scenario, the inner envelope should be addressed to: The Captains Brown.

  • 4

    Include both of their titles and first names on the outer envelope if the husband and wife have different services and different ranks: Captain John and Major Sue Green. For the inner envelope, again drop the first names: Captain and Major Green.

  • 5

    Separate the names on two different lines on the outer envelope, with the woman’s entry appearing first, if the husband and wife who have different services and ranks also have different last names. (First line: Major Elizabeth Cook. Second line: Captain George Black.)

  • 6

    Combine the names on the same line of the inner envelope in this situation, again putting the wife first: Major Cook and Captain Black.


Post # 6
2335 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Ask her preference.  In cases where a person has more than 1 title, you use the one they prefer- example, my mother can be a Dr. or  Mrs. but prefers Mrs. for the invites.

Post # 8
233 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

My husband is also in the Navy. When addressing individuals in the military, never state the branch or the academic degree. So, in the case of the female, she would be addressed as just Captain. Also, she would be listed first on the invitation, as her rank is higher. So, your best option is:

Captain Jane Doe 

and Lieutenant John Doe

Hope this helps!

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