Post # 1
So I am not a girly girl in the slightest, I literally have no idea how to apply make up. This whole wedding thing has thrown me for a loop and is difficult for me, a people pleaser. The hardest thing is pleasing my bridesmaids, all three are my closest girlfriends but are extremely varying in opinions, tastes and personalities. So to please them I found a cheap, short blue dress for them to all wear; now I have one bridesmaid, my Maid/Matron of Honor, doesn’t like them whereas the other two and my mom love them. Should I just pull my bride card and go with them or try to find something else?
Post # 3
Like you, I have very 3 “difficult” bridesmaids! I opted to go to http://www.alfredangelo.com and pick out 15 different dress styles that I liked. They are all the same color, fabric and length. I let the girls choose the dress they liked most. Each of them chose a different dress, and are SO excited and happy and comfortable in the dress they chose. They were all around $160. I’m just glad they’re happy and honestly, they look great when standing together!
Post # 4
First of all, your BMs are supposed to wear whatever you pick out for them. Unless your Maid/Matron of Honor has issues with her legs showing or something, she shouldn’t complain.
Secondly, it’s fairly common for the Maid/Matron of Honor to have a slightly different dress than the other BMs. If you can find a dress that your Maid/Matron of Honor likes that still coordinates with the other girls, that should work well – maybe the color and style are the same, but the length is longer, or something).
Post # 5
As I explained to my 8 y.o. goddaughter who was crying because she didn’t like the dress options I gave her (which really, should I have given an 8 y.o. options? NO) I explained to her that it was MY day and while I would respect her opinion and would like for her to wear what she liked, she would eventually hvae HER day and then be able to tell ME what to wear.
I have three girls in my wedding and I went w/ them to look at dresses. Thank god they all liked the same one in the colors that I suggested! They chose a Watters bridesmaid dress in chocolate brown w/ a sage green sash. I allowed them to have either a long or short dress (but they all had to agree on either or) and then they could chose whether they wanted a halter, straps, or strapless. I also have fabulous girls who understand the process :o)
Post # 6
You should not include your bridesmaids in your dress choice. You should make a decision that will fit all of their body types and works within their budgets… other than that do not involve them… it will only cause heartache… I would simply tell her “I am sorry I let you guys in on the decision, but this is the dress I have chosen, it will only be for about 6 hrs, I would do it for you! love, your name”