(Closed) Odd question for you ladies (may be sensitive: death)

posted 5 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: Could you sleep in the bed?
    Hell to the no. : (34 votes)
    31 %
    Sure, what's the big deal? : (48 votes)
    44 %
    Um, only if there were a new mattress and all new sheets too. : (26 votes)
    24 %
    Other (because there always has to be an other) : (1 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    8472 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    When my dad passed away, I slept on his side of the bed for months.  It just felt comforting to me.  It was comforting to my mom as well because there was a body there next to her. 

    Post # 4
    Member
    9142 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    Nope.  I wouldn’t be able to get the thought out of my head, especially since grandma is also ill and possibly going to follow dad.  I would probably have a panic attack and end up on the couch or at least in another room.

    Post # 5
    Member
    2188 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2024

    I would attempt it because it was your dad not a stranger but that is up to you, I don’t think it’s creepy etc if he died peacefully, I might actually find it comforting.

    Post # 7
    Member
    952 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I said no only because I don’t think I could. Everyone is different though. I am very sorry for his passing and your grandma’s declining health 🙁

    Post # 8
    Member
    9084 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I’d do it. I don’t see it as squicky or gross, but I totally get the mental factor.

    Post # 9
    Member
    9538 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I don’t see a problem with it, it sounds like it was peaceful.  I don’t think it would bother me (never been in that situation though).

    Sorry about your father and grandma, OP.

    It’s not like something violent happened there (in that case, I don’t think anyone would want to sleep in that bed).

     

    Post # 10
    Member
    3092 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I personally would find it comforting. 

     

    Sorry for your loss.

    Post # 11
    Member
    900 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    My dad also passed away at home, in my parent’s bed, after a lengthy battle with cancer.  I’ve slept in my parent’s bed since then ( when my Darling Husband and I visit, my mom sometimes insists we stay in her room with the big bed).  It hasn’t been a problem for me.

     

    I also still wearing a pair of my dad’s PJ pants to sleep in, I have a couple of his favorite Tshirts that I wear, and my husband wears a lot of his old ski gear.  =)  I like it, it makes me feel close to my dad.

    Post # 12
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    3755 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I think some people (as other PPs have stated) would find it comforting if it was a peaceful passing. I’m not sure if I would do it, but I might try. If it was too much, just move to a couch or something. I’m so sorry for your loss. 

    Post # 14
    Member
    6015 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Sorry for your loss. My mom passed away in our house too.  Before my mom passed away I never understood why people even STAYED in the house where someone had died.    If it was someone I didn’t know that died in the bed, no way.  But it’s someone you loved. I’d maybe crash on the couch if I couldn’t sleep the whole night there.

    Post # 15
    Member
    1805 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    We had to bring one of those medical beds into our house for my dad and we had it in the living area next to the kitchen so he wouldn’t have to use the stairs. Eventually he passed away, a while went by and we decided to move, my mom sold the house and also bought herself new bedroom furniture. Not because it was creepy like some of the pps have said but because it reminded her of her sick husband, the house reminded me of my sick dad who withered away. It was sad, it was uncomfortable, and there is no way in hell I wouldve slept in that bad he passed away in. 

    Post # 16
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    11752 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    no thank you, unless the mattress was brand new.  

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