(Closed) Odd Question- Good or Bad "Deal"?

posted 7 years ago in Proposals
  • poll: Do you think this 'agreement' is a good idea?

    Yes! Take it!

    No- he should want to propose... It shouldn't be all on you passing tests!

    Other Reasons for Yes/No- Please explain

  • Post # 17
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I wouldn’t think too much about it… He probably just thought it was a good way to motivate you. It seems pretty obvious through your post that he was already planning to propose, so you probably know even better than we all do that he wants to marry you πŸ™‚

    Post # 18
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I don’t think it’s weird since you were already planning on getting engaged soon. My SO loves to encourage me in school/career so I think it’s swee that he wants you to focus on studying now and then get excited about the engagement, and work hard before so that you achieve YOUR goal and have something awesome to look forward to as well. Especially if you have no indication that he has any qualms about when to propose, it’s fine! He can still make it a surprise. But I personally wouldn’t be so serious about it (in terms of the agreement) I feel like if it happened in my relationship it would be more of an understanding or a casual hint rather than an “agreement”

    Post # 19
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @BlondieBee28:  seems quite sweet to me actually, not a bad thing, AND seems like he DOES want to propose. 

    Post # 20
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2015

    @BlondieBee28:  My best friend recently got engaged. Her bf waited until after her licensing exam because after she was done with that, she could focus on wedding planning. It wasn’t a “deal” per se, but it just made sense, as it seems to for you.

    Post # 22
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @BlondieBee28:  Just wanted to say hello to a fellow bee who is currently studying for the CPA exam! I finish my Masters in 1 month and have started to study for my CPA. (I hate studying, it is horrible. Worse than grad school! haha)

    I don’t think that this agreement is strange if it was said in a fun, casual, and motivational way. I know that prior to me and my Fiance getting engaged he joked kind of about the same thing! But I knew that we would be engaged well before that, so it wasn’t any sort of deal or arrangement we were making, it was more of him teasing me because he knew this would be another 9-10 months. However, when he made this comment (joke) he was purely doing it out of motivation. 

    **to do the @ symbol at someone properly you need to click the (reply) button at the bottom of each response.. I made this same mistake when I first joined the hive, until a nice bee told me how to do it properly!! 

    Post # 23
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I didn’t read any of the other comments so I’m sorry if I repeat. I feel like he’s going to propose anyway, and you’re going to pass the tests anyway… so agreeing to the “deal” or not agreeing is kind of like when my fiance and I make a deal that if I watch a chick flick he’ll watch a documentary. We were both going to do that anyway… and now we’re funny. πŸ™‚

    Post # 25
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    My engagement came from a “deal”. It was my idea, and we even shook on it. If I bought him the computer parts he wanted, he’d buy the ring and propose. Otherwise, he just would’ve bought the computer and then the ring. Like you, it all would’ve happened within the next few months one way or another. It worked for us, but it certainly wouldn’t have worked for everyone. 

    Post # 27
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

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    @BlondieBee28:  FH. I wish he was husband already! We’ve been engaged for almost 9 months and still have over a year to go. He’s actually playing Eve Online on that computer right now. It was the first one he ever put together, and it’s pretty impressive for how little he really spent on it. 

    Deals work great when they speed up something that was going to happen eventually anyway, as long as you’re both ready for it. 

    Post # 29
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    Sounds similar to my situation we never made a deal however, when I was in nursing school I would periodically ask him about when we were going to get engaged? and why did he want to wait until I was done? His reasoning was that he knew (and he was right) that planning a wedding would completely make me lose focus on school. Everything turned out perfect because I stopped worrying about it and the week of my graduation he popped the question! It was so perfect because I was not expecting it all, I had a million other things on my mind that week! Everything will work out for you just try not to worry so much about it!

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