(Closed) Odd reactions to my e-ring

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
3936 posts
Honey bee


My $0.02? If you’re in KUWTJ, US, then you’re going to get less approving reactions no matter what you have on your finger. So, rock your ring and don’t look back.







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  • This reply was modified 6 years, 7 months ago by NFLwidow.
Post # 3
551 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2000

I really like the setting you chose for the ring. It’s unusual in the sea of micro pave rings that are trendy right now which appeals to me.  I think people don’t know what to say because it’s not “in style”.  

Post # 4
108 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Just looked at your other posts with pictures of the ring, and I love it. It’s so unique and pretty. A lot of people are close-minded and prefer traditional rings (which is fine), so I’m sure those are the people you’re getting those reactions from. 

Post # 5
6522 posts
Bee Keeper

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honeylamb:  *InternetHugs*

It can be hard when you love something so much, and it seems others don’t feel the same way. It’s not that their reaction changes your feelings toward your ring, but maybe more that it makes you kind of second-guess yourself and what you love. I should really put that as a question, as I don’t want to presume to know your personal feelings. I’m just sitting here thinking about how this is the way I would feel in the same situation.

I have a sort of unusual anniversary ring. It’s not a style that is popular out in the real world, so people rarely comment on it at all if they ask to see it. I’ve gotten a lot of the same reactions as you have experienced. It can be hard. And a little bit upsetting.

Your bezel set is amazing, as is your stone. And the yellow gold looks gorgeous on you. But it’s not a common style of ring. Yellow gold, also, isn’t all that common out in the “real world” (as opposed to the internet), although I do think yellow gold is making a big comeback. It’s probably a case of people knowing you just got engaged, asking to see the ring, and then being taken by surprise because it’s not what they expected. I think a lot of people IRL lack imagination when it comes to jewelry and, in particular, wedding jewelry. But their reactions mean NOTHING about the beauty of your ring! And they also don’t mean anything negative about your amazing sense of style and your strong ability to know just what you want and what will look beautiful on you.

Post # 6
5046 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

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honeylamb:  Well for starters I had seen your ring in the other thread and LOVED it! I love me a bezel setting! But I agree, if it’s not “traditional”, people seem to not know what to say. I don’t know why people can’t just be nice and say it’s beautiful no matter what they think because of course YOU love it. And also, I think people aren’t that interested. I don’t think many people even asked to see my ring even at the wedding.

Post # 7
2769 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Uhm, I went and looked… And I love your ring. I love the way it pops on you, I love the size difference between the 1ct centre and the side stones. It is gorgeous!

having said that, bezels have not really been ‘popular’ as erings for a super long time. It’s possible the fact it is so different is really throwing people… But you know what? A bezel is the safest ring setting, yours looks soo classy and elegant, I betcha if you flash that around enough you may start some trends! 🙂

Post # 8
2202 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

I’ve been married for 2 years, and I think maybe 2 people have commented on my ring. No one cares.

Post # 9
1894 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception/The Gallery

I think your ring is gorgeous. Though I didn’t love a bezel for my always, everyday, forever ring, I adore them on other people. While I think the anti-climatic responses are a bit rude (or, at the very least disappointing since you’re so excited about it), it is different that what people are seeing and being told is the “best” right now. But who cares. In 10 years everyone may have a bezel and all those micropave halos may be being reset. Or not. Trends come and go. 

Try to not let it bother you. Or reply that you LOVE that it’s different than most/has heirloom stones/whatever. But don’t worry about them, your ring (and fiance and relationship, etc, etc) is perfect for you–and your finace, the only people who matter in all of this.

Post # 10
6583 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I looked up your ring- and it’s really pretty!!

Post # 11
227 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Your ring is GORGEOUS (I saw it in the other thread). Bezels are my favorite setting! People are weird about things sometimes. Personally, I can’t believe that they aren’t gushing about it! You aren’t being superficial, you want people to share in your excitement because you have wonderful news and a beautiful ring. And frankly, I think it’s rude to just stare at someone’s brand new engagement ring and not say anything! What the heck?! Try not to let them get you down! I’ve definitely dealt with some weird reactions, though not because of my ring. As long as YOU love your ring that’s what’s important. 

Post # 12
876 posts
Busy bee

People can be awkward and rude..think of it this way – better that they act weird and say nothing at all than give you their honest opinion on why they don’t like it (which really shouldn’t matter to you since it’s a ring for you and as long as you love it, that’s what matters)

Post # 13
8457 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

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honeylamb:  That’s really odd. It’s not huge, it’s not tiny, it’s not weird-looking… I don’t understand why anyone would have a strange reaction to it. It’s a pretty and perfectly “normal” looking ring. Very odd.

Post # 14
220 posts
Helper bee

Your ring is gorgeous girl! I wish I had heirloom diamonds like that!!! People are probably jealous or not used to seeing bezel set stones. Either way, don’t feel bad about it. It’s a lovely ring, unique and classic at the same time. =)

Post # 15
243 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I love bezel settings, and I think yours is just perfect. It looks really unique, and not like something you’d pick up down the cheap high street jewellers. The gold works so beautifully with the colour of the stone and your skin, too – and it really suits your fingers. I say screw the others – just because it’s not the ‘typical’ engagement ring people might picture doesn’t make it any less amazing. If anything I prefer it and I bet it’s going to look wicked with a wedding band, something a bit unusual. 

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