Post # 31
fwiw, here’s another positive about your ring: bezel settings don’t need as frequent checks. 😀
Don’t get me wrong, I love my prong-set e-ring. And twice yearly prong checks don’t sound like a lot. But after a decade or so of “oh, stink, I have to get to the jeweler to get my ring check or risk voiding the warranty” I started to view it as the nuisance it was. I did some research, even double-checking at Tiffany & Co that if I “upgrade” to a bezel set ring, that they wouldn’t need to see it but maybe once every five yrs or so. Boom. That sounds much better to me.
Post # 32
As long as you love your ring that is all that matters. When I got engaged people said the WEIRDEST things (“that band is as thick as a man’s ring” – ok thank you. “you really need a big diamond to pull off a solitaire” – again, thank you…what?!)
I’m guessing people just don’t know how to be polite sometimes. Shake it off, and love that beautiful ring of yours! 🙂
Post # 33
I wouldn’t worry about other people and want they think. I’ve never been one to seek other’s approval or opinions. One of my friends, is always looking for someone to validate her & her material stuff. She try to keep up with the “Joneses” to the point that she is deep in debt. It’s driving her hubby cra cra. There will ALWAYS be someone out there that isn’t going to like or appreciate what you have. Ring envy does exist, it’s real & can cause problems. To be honest, I don’t like it when people ask to see my e-ring. I rather them, look from a distance & keep their mouth closed. I’m married to my bff, not my ring. SMH, only in the US other countries don’t stress about e-rings.
Post # 34
Really? That’s strange cuz your ring is genuinely gorgeous, i’m not even just saying that. But you know what, most people are just used to what they see at the local jewely stores – solitaires or 3 stone rings. Here on the bee, however, the ladies are open minded and appreciative of non-traditional rings. So that may be the difference in reaction. But still, if you ask to see the ring you really should make some comment out of courtecy. I say they’re jealous!
Post # 35
Seriously, Your engagement ring is beautiful. I love the history behing it and the thought your Fiance put into it. Not everyone can rock a bezel set diamond and not everyone likes a bezel set diamond and they are so different from the halo settings that every bride to be is rocking at the moment….so that may be where the lack of enthuiasiam is comming from. People are just surprised that it is different and dont know how to react when the media is saying “this is what is beautiful” and you show them somthing pretty much the polar opposite of Bling on top of Bling!
Post # 36
That is very rude! Even if someone’s ring isn’t my personal taste that doesn’t mean it isn’t pretty, especially to the person wearing it. I genuinely always have something nice to say about everyones rings because what they represent is beautiful to me. Some people are just have no manners and I’m sure some are jealous that you have something good going for you. I hope that some of these people at least congratulated you on your engagement.
Post # 37
- Wedding: November 2015 - The Victorian
A few things for you. First of all, your ring is beautiful. Second of all, I think we all get it. No matter WHAT ring you have, there will be people that don’t like it or aren’t “wowed” by it. It’s special to you, not to them. One co-worker of mine insists my ring is the most beautiful ring he’s ever seen. Another looked at it and said he “preferred a different setting.” I told him it was a good thing I was the one that had to wear it and not him, then! People are freaking rude. They just are. Be happy with your beautiful ring that your wonderful fiance got you and eff everyone else.
Post # 38
Oh and I forgot to say that I personally think that your ring is so amazing. I would be proud to wear a beautiful bezel like yours. Don’t let these people get you down. Not everyone has such fabulous taste 😉
Post # 39
That ring is made for you! I looked at your pic and it’s so perfect and beautiful on you, everything I want my eventual ring to be! I think people are dumb sometimes and insensitive without meaning to be. Sure, maybe your ring isn’t everyone’s personal taste, but you clearly love it (and for good reason!) and it’s the symbol you and/or your Fiance chose for your love. I know they’re not meaning to knock it but that’s how their reactions sound to you. Just know that there are plenty of ladies here drooling over your perfect ring!
Post # 40
I saw your ring yesterday and agree: it’s beautiful! Love the bezel setting. So unique and lovely. If I knew you and saw you in person, I’d tell you, too. 🙂
I do feel you on the disappointment over other people’s reactions, though. I have an art deco, ruby, estate e-ring from the 1920s. I think it’s beautiful, but most people’s reactions were “oh, that’s different” or “that looks really old” or “I bet you saved a lot of money by buying a ruby instead of a diamond” (barf). It never really bothered me, though, because I love it and that’s all that matters!
Post # 41
I don’t really understand, your ring is in no way different-looking or odd, or unique – it’s a very beautiful, very classic style, very average (not odd) looking ring.
Post # 42
Girl I love your ring!!! (Not just saying that either). I feel for you. Someone saw my morganite e-ring and snippily said, “how will anyone know that’s an e-ring? It’s not even a diamond…” Lol
Post # 43
Know what I like best about my ring? I will NEVER see it on anyone else nor will I see it in the Sunday jewelry adds! Know what I like best about your ring? THE SAME THING! plus the beautiful sentiment that the stones represent! Your ring is gorgeous! It is a one of a kind original and something to be very proud of. When people react oddly just smile and say “well I love it! My man did awesome!” What can they say to that? 🙂 Also I have a vintage ring that is kinda similar to yours (on a smaller scale as was typical in that time period) so although yours may not be “trendy” yours is a classic and everlasting style. So ROCK IT WITH PRIDE!!!
The vintage bezel
Post # 44
oooh – I love rubies! And vintage! Pics?
Post # 45
Just in looking at your avatar… you are a seriously beautiful woman, and that ring is awesome! (I looked at it in the other thread). Plus, in using stones that have sentimental value, your ring has extra meaning to it, which is lovely!
Your story reminded me of a baby naming discussion that occured recently. One of my friends named her child Iris. Where we live, there are a sea of Aiden’s, Kaiden’s, Ava’s, Hannah’s, Madeline’s…. etc. All popular names. When we had our kids at the park some of the moms got talking while we watched our kids playing in the sandox. Myself and several of the other moms shared our children’s names and there were lots of smiling and nodding and a few people said, oh, I like that name, I was thinking of that one too…. or my niece has that name, or something along those lines. so finally, someone asks my friend what her daughter’s name is, and she responds, ‘it’s Iris’.
So none of the other moms say anything… just ‘oh’ and then after an awkward silence someone asks, ‘ is that a family name?’ and my friend replies that it isn’t and that she and her dh just liked it. Again… there is an awkward silence and finally someone changes the topic. I felt so bad for my friend because even if the others don’t like or wouldn’t have selected that name (or in your case wouldn’t have selected your ring), it doesn’t mean that there is anything ‘wrong’ with it… it just isn’t wasn’t as popular as some of the others. That doesn’t mean that Iris won’t grow in popularity over time … and it doesn’t mean that bezels won ‘t grow or change in popularity either. Nothing remains stagnant.
So….. enjoy your ring and be proud of it… even if no one on the planet would have selected it- you love it and your fi had it made with love, which is all that matters. (hug)…. now you better start posting some dress pics!!! Don’t keep us [email protected]! 🙂