(Closed) Odd Shower Gift- Reactions Please?

posted 8 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: Tea set for one. On face value, I think that gift is:
    Perfectly acceptable. You like tea, it's a tea set. Done and done. : (160 votes)
    87 %
    Great birthday present, weird bridal shower gift. : (23 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 48
    13845 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I think it’s a bit weird for a shower gift but, meh, she could’ve done worse.  haha

    Post # 49
    2576 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I think it is totally adorable.

    Post # 50
    198 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    i love it! it’s beautiful! i agree with pp, i wouldn’t read into it too much

    Post # 51
    1361 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    She probably didn’t even think about how it was only for one person and just thought “cute tea set”!  Also, I think it’s a super cute tea set 🙂


    Post # 52
    1212 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    No matter how great married life is, sometimes it’s just nice to sit and have a nice cup of tea, in a nice setting, by yourself. In a way she still is setting you up for married life.


    I don’t think there is anything off about this at all, it’s a lovely gift, has a lot of beauty and wouldn’t even attempt to read anything into it other than it’ll be lovely to use sometime.

    Post # 54
    735 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    On the face of things, I don’t think that this gift is wrong; even for a bridal shower. After all, it was a bridal shower, not a couple shower – and gals who aren’t in the process of getting marrie d don’t always stop to think about how excited we are to be part of a pair.

    But, given a little more of the backstory and your history, I think it is likely that the girl didn’t put much thought in to the gift (at best) and perhaps was even a little vindictive.

    *begin shameful confession*  There’s a girl I don’t like. (She’s kind of a passive agressive B.  When she’s not being an out-right, no apologies selfish brat.) But for whatever reason I have to maintain appearances, and play nice.  She got married about a year ago.  I (luckily) live pretty far from her, so I wasn’t expected to go to showers, but I was invited to the wedding and Fiance & I were expected to send a gift.  I spent a RIDICULOUS amount of energy plotting a gift that would seem nice on the surface but I knew she would actually hate and would make her think “WTF?!!?”  I even looked for stores with the worst return policies and then shopped their clearance sales. 

    After a month Fiance pointed out that I was spending WAY too much time and energy on that crap and I should just send a photo frame since we were getting so close to the wedding date.  So we were absolutely shopping at the last minute, we sent something nice (and bland, and a little odd, to be honest) from BB&B – because we knew they have a good return policy & the couple was registered there.

    I started out trying to be awful, but in the end, I was just lazy.  It was not one of my proudest moments… and the bride might still have opened it and thought “WTH?” – but at least she could return it. 😉

    My point – I’m a nice person, but I did a crappy thing.  I felt guilty when I got a thank you note for that gift.  A sweet, promptly written thank you note will be your best “revenge” if this was meant as a dig.  If she’s just odd (or doesn’t know you that well) giving her the benefit of the doubt and sending the nice note maintains your status as a lovely person and a gracious guest of honor.

    Post # 55
    1434 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State

    Maybe it’s just a reminder to take a nice relaxing moment to yourself during your whole wedding planning and marriage process.

    Post # 56
    19 posts
    • Wedding: August 2012


    I guess the gift giver figured you liked tea and maybe you’d like something for yourself to relax with..ya know..you’re own little tea warmer.  🙂

    Post # 57
    19 posts
    • Wedding: August 2012


    Besides the giver of the gift..looks to me like something that would end up in the Goodwill box..lol!!

    Post # 58
    2486 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    if you don’t like it ship it to me i think its amazing!

    my shower is a tea party- and my Fiance hates TEa- the party is for me not him!

    Post # 59
    951 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    My first thought is that it is a *little* weird, however I think it’s really cute and would love to have one. I would consider it a self-pampering gift, considering that you got a few of those. Maybe they took your FH as the kind of guy who doesn’t care about tea nor would he ever think to get you one? I know my Fiance wouldn’t get me one, and I LOVE getting cozy and sipping a cup of tea. Combine that with the fact that it matches the theme of your shower and I would say that it was given with love.

    I think that if it was a gift at the wedding I would be more stressed.

    Post # 60
    69 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I think it’s super cute!!! 

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