- 5 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
Today is a milestone for me, and I wanted to share it with a supportive community who has had it’s fair share of stories of terrible in-laws.
Ever since my fiance’s mother died his family has been on the war path against him and myself for reasons never made clear. The general consensus I have come up with is FI’s brother has spread some rumors about us and the family accepts them as truth, and in turn has outcasted us.
Some of the rumors to my knowledge are:
- Because we’re Christian we hate gays and his gay marriage.
- My Fiance tried to attack this brother and made death threats.
- I am using my Fiance as my own personal taxi cab, and abuse him.
- Fiance used to “senior abuse” his elderly mother.
The threads of truth in each of these rumors are: We are Christian, my Fiance is a second degree black belt in Tae Kwon Do and can protect himself, my Fiance does drive me around since I cannot drive due to some very personal reasons, and FI’s mother was elderly.
The lies of these rumors are: We have a problem with homosexuality, and gay marriage, which we def. do not! Death threats were never made and no attacks ever happened. My Fiance would never even hurt a fly, let alone think about hurting a human being. I never abuse him or force him into car bondage I ask if he’ll give me a ride if it is alright with him. As to the whole senior abuse issue this brother feels that because their mom doatted (sp?) on my Fiance that it was because he was manipulating her in some way even though before she died she told the brother many times that wasn’t true.
Well yesterday my FI’s father brought up again that I shouldn’t marry my Fiance because he is “unreliable” and “messy.” Usually in the past I got really upset whenever his family was rude, or did mean things to us, but now…..I was calm. His words had no effect on me, and I just smiled and said “That is why God is giving me this lifetime with my SO, so we can become stronger, and learn together.” He just said I should get out now, but I shrugged it off.
It is a great feeling to be able to be in a family that literally hates us, and for once not be tormented by their words and actions. I am posting this for anyone else who is going through a difficult time with their in-laws, and need to see a light at the end of the tunnel because there is. This story may not have the best of endings since his family still do not approve of us or this wedding, but to be able to still stand tall, to still be getting married, and to still have happiness within my heart after what we’ve been through….That…That is my light at the end of the tunnel that I can endure this, and conquer it and so can you.