(Closed) Off the beaten path Venue-2 hours from "home"

posted 4 years ago in Venue
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I think it’s a little rude tbh. It’s like a destination wedding, but without the benefits because you’re still in Ohio lol. I’m also in Ohio (Toledo), and ruled out a venue because it is 45 mins out of the city. I think it’s asking a lot for everyone to get a hotel room in this case. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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scipioblack :  my venue (a country club) waives the $1,200 fee for November-March weddings. I think you’ll be able to find something closer that’s still within your budget. Good luck!

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I wouldn’t mind the two hours out of the way part, but I think asking people to go into an area without great cell service or paved roads is dangerous. Have you looked at other days of the week like Friday or Sunday for cheaper prices? 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

2 hours is nothing, I drive that there and back regularly to visit family on small English country roads. Plus most people stay overnight after the wedding anyway. Weather is unpredictable so as long as your venue is warm inside and guests dont have to wander outside alot if it does snow, they will be fine.

The only issue I see is the dirt roads especially if weathers bad. Would the hotel be back in a paved area, so that your shuttles can take them across the dirt roads safely? I think that would be fine as long as guests dont have to drive many unpaved roads themselves. 

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I am having my wedding at a location with no cell reception, gravel road access and 3hours from our town and 1.5hrs from where a lot of my fiancés family lives, there is accommodation onsite but not enough for everyone but it was very “us” and within budget- I couldn’t be more excited and if people want to come they will make the effort and love it because it’s your day! 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

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scipioblack :  We are getting married 4 hours from where we live and 3-4 hours away from where most of his family lives and a 2 days drive from most of my family. Honestly, it’s your wedding and you should get married where you want to. I would send people maps in their invitations with a note about lacking cell service. 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Our wedding was 2.5 hours away from where we live- but in the town I grew up in.  So, some of my guests were local- but most were out of town.  We actually got comments that the drive was no issue and that they really liked our venue.  (the town is kind of touristy, so there was a lot to see there).

I think your venue would be ok if you provide a shuttle to and from a nearby hotel.  Then if people decide to drive at night with no cell reception, it is their choice, and not really forced on them.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

We are getting married an hour away from home. My sister is getting married three hours away from home. The last wedding was an hour away from home. As long as it’s not unsafe to get there, I say go for it. People don’t have to come. If it’s important to them, they will.

That being said, it sounds like an area where there are no cabs. I would provide people with a way to get back to  fee hotels nearby. We are renting shuttles to bring people back to a nearby hotel for those who choose not to drive. 

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

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scipioblack :  Is it convenient? No, but weddings of any kind rarely are. If there are hotels nearby I would get a room block, provide your guests with the info, and let get a shuttle. That way your guests can make a night out of it and not worry about drinking and driving. At the end of the day they’re all adults and can make their own decision. You just have to mentally prepare yourself that some people might decline because they feel it’s too out of the way.

The two hour away is a moot point for me. Everyone makes such a big deal out of it, but good grief I don’t know about y’all but my friends live all over the place. That’s the world we live in today – people go away to college and live all around. I regularly go to weddings that are a couple hours away because that’s just life.

Different people like different things. I’m the type of person for a wedding 2 hours away would totally just get a hotel because I wouldn’t want to drive back (despite not really being a drinker, so that’s not an issue). My DH on the other hand is the kind of guy who’d rather just drive home and sleep in his own bed.

When one of my girlfriends got married about an hour away from where we all live, the bridal party all stayed two nights near her venue despite being so close. We had to be out there for the rehearsal/dinner, and the girls had to start hair/makeup at like 7am. It seemed silly to do all that driving. That being said, my DH really didn’t want to do all that so he just drove back and forth. He came out for the rehearsal and went back home that night, then drove back for the wedding and home that night.

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

How bad are the dirt roads. If it rains or snows, is a regular car going to get stuck?

Do you have people flying in that will have rental cars? Because I think you’re not allowed to take a rental on dirt roads.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I have yet to go to a wedding that wasn’t at least an hour away, but I also live in a state where getting to the next state takes a good 6 to 8 hours. If you love the venue, you should have your wedding there. People that aren’t willing to travel a couple of hours for a wedding probably aren’t that invested in going to begin with.

That said, the other issues you brought up are worth factoring in the decision. Lack of cell service is inconvenient, but I’d survive without cell phone access for a day. I also assume that people rent the venue all the time and don’t have a horrible experience with the dirt roads, but I understand the concern.

Good luck with your decision!

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

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scipioblack :  I think IF you go with this… there are solutions to make it easier for everyone. A 2 hour drive to a wedding for me is NOT that big of a deal – however, if its really hard to find or the roads are impassable due to weather – I don’t think you can expect your guests to attend and you need to be upfront about the conditions of the drive. If you have a lot of elderly people attending – this would also make me think twice. 

If you go with it, I would do something like rent a shuttle for hotel pickup/dropoff. I’d also let guests know that they can park at the hotel and ride the shuttle even if they aren’t staying. That way – they dont have to drive down the back roads alone trying to find the venue. Just make sure the shuttle knows where it’s going or you may end up with zero guests – lol! 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

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scipioblack :  While I wouldn’t be crazy about the 2 hour drive, the fact that you’re having it in March when the weather could be very unpredictible (plus the road situation) would be enough for me to find another venue.

I live in Chicago so the weather in March can be all over the place as well.  We’ve had St Patrick’s Days where it was 80 degrees and some where we had snow storms.  My parents got married in March and they had an unexpected snow storm.  Half their guests were unable to come because the city couldn’t keep up with clearing the roads – and that was in the city.

If you start having to rent shuttles, wouldn’t that eat up your tiny budget?  I would try to find a place where you don’t have to take on that additional cost.  This location also is more expensive for your guests (mandatory stay essentially) so that additional cost may cause a lot of guests to decline.

Despite what a PP said, I don’t believe that those closest will make it no matter what.  Just because someone declines it doesn’t mean they don’t care for you.

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