Post # 1
It’s finished, I have all my accessories ready to check everything works, and I cannot be bothered – I’m bored by the dress, utterly exhausted by the heat and I wish I could just leave the bastard thing in the shop and not bother with the wedding. I’m finding it a stretch to even get dressed in the morning let alone actually do seating charts and playlists. I don’t want to do a receiving line (my own idea of hell), or do a first dance, or get stared at by what feels like a million different people when I feel like the most disgusting pig of a woman who ever lived.
I’m furious with myself for feeling like this and for being unable to fake it properly anymore.
33 days of feeling like this left to go people yayyyyyyyyyy:(
Post # 2
I understand where you’re coming from. I’m 60 days out and am having problems finding energy to finish my planning, in addition to keeping my house clean!
My fiancé and I aren’t doing a receiving line… We are getting married outside, so we are going to jump in his truck and drive off for a few minutes of alone time before photos and the reception starts. Just an idea for you 🙂
Have you talked to your fiancé about what you are feeling??
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
I blame the heat. I can’t do ANYTHING when it’s hot. So give yourself a break!!! But go get the dress first. Maybe they’ll have a fan? Air conditioning?
Then can you go do something non-wedding related? Go see a movie, maybe. Take a cool bath or read a book or both!
And though I just got married, I also have the blues bigtime today. I’m going to try and ignore my depression and go hang out with my brothers and nephew. So I’ll probably end up playing superheroes. I am betting that might take me out of myself for at least awhile. he he!!
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
P.S. Skip the receiving ine. I didn’t do one and it was fine.
Post # 5
Oh please don’t do the receiving line, it’s hell indeed. If your family complains tell them you’re going to go around all the tables instead as it’s more personal. Then “forget to” if you don’t feel like it. It’s your wedding, you can decide to skip it. And prahajess hit the nail on the head – when it’s so darned hot, your energy goes out the window and your patience goes with it.
I’d say you’re in overload and you need some non-wedding days to recharge your batteries. Can you tell your FI how you feel and put a veto on talkoing about anything wedding-related for at least the next week. And plan something fun for the weekend, just the two of you. Movies, nice dinner, mini-golf, anything except bloody wedding stuff.
I remember my first wedding and how I was extremely uncomfortable being the centre of attention. When I arrived at the church, I was actually literally shocked and started crying because 20 people were standing outside the church to see me arrive and I didn’t expect it and could barely get out of the car. To top it off my SIL was a drop-dead gorgeous professional model and wow didn’t I feel like a fat frump standing next to her in the family photos. And we only had a tiny wedding of 40 so I couldn’t avoid her. Plus a lot of guests were athletes and super-fit looking. Yeah, it wasn’t great for my self esteem. But then I gave myself a wake-up slap because at the end of the day I was married to the man I loved, and the rest was just fluff and window dressing. And yet afterwards everyone told me I had looked beautiful because apparently when you put on that dress, somehow you get this magic thing that happens where everyone has filters on and thinks you look beautiful too, no matter what you’re feeling inside.