Post # 1
One of my best friends is an officer in the military, and she just got word that she’s deploying overseas for 6+ months.
I want to be there for her, but I’m not sure HOW. Does anyone have any experience with this? What can I do to be supportive?
(p.s. She’s going to miss the wedding. )
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2009 - Byodo-In Temple, Luau Reception
As a military gal myself, just let her know that you totally support what she’s doing and how you appreciate it. Make sure you get an email address and if possible, a mailing address. If you can, mail care packages to her and her troop/flight/squadran. Getting packages are one of the highlights of the day when you’re far away from your family and friends. Just keep in touch with her, but understand that it might take awhile for her to write/respond back to you because of how busy she might be in the field and by how conivent technology might or might not be for her.
Post # 4
What I recommend before she leaves is going out to eat at her fave places. It stinks not being able to eat your favorite tacos/chinese/italian/etc. Get it in before she leaves!
Also make sure you get her mailing address. The USPS offers flat rate FPO boxes, meaning you go to the post office, they give you a box (for free) and you can stuff it with as much as you like for a flat rate. Keep in mind you’ll have to fill out a customs form declaring what’s in it. But there’s nothing like getting a care package to make your day! Also keep in mind that packages are usually about a month behind a mobile unit (like a Navy ship or a mobile Army brigade). So don’t send anything within a month of them coming home, it’ll get lost.
For care packages:
- Phone Card
- Fave hot sauce
- Travel size lotions from B&BW
- Greeting cards with something funny
- Comics cut out from the paper
- New socks!!
- New undershirts!!
- Pain reliever
- Tampax (sometimes not available overseas)
A lot of this depends on where your friend will go. The above list is for someone with not a lot of room or storage or access to commisaries or grocery stores. If your friend is deploying to a shore station (like Germany) she’ll have a lot better living conditions, and she may ask you to send her stuff.
Mostly sailors just like getting correspondence, because it lets them know people are thinking about them. Even if you sent it like a month ago.
And throw her a party when she gets home.
Post # 5
When my FH was deployed he said the best part of the day was mail time. He still talks about the care packages he got from his parents and friends and how much the letters he received helped him through the day. He was already over there in Sept. 2001 and volunteered to stay. He was unable to call home or email his family, so his only connection was the mail and care packages he received. I know that is not the situation now, but there are times when they can’t contact you and they still need a connection to home.
Like the other said, the best thing you can do is keep in touch. It means so much to those who are overseas to know you are thinking about them and that you are making an effort to show them you love them.
Post # 6
Thanks for the great advice everyone!