(Closed) Offbeat brides, where yall at?! *mini rant*

posted 6 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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Busy bee

I’m here! 🙂 I’m on offbeat bride forum too.

The only traditional type stuff we are doing is my dad will walk me down the aisle… Our ceromony will be offbeat. References to xbox gaming and zombie apolcaylspe will be mentioned.

I’m wearing a blue dress, our table centerpieces will DIY jars filled with nerdy bits. I.E Mario one, star wars one etc.

Oh and no bridal party. Keeping away far far away from the cookie cutter princess wedding.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2005

Yeah for being off beat!!  I am wearing a Pink Camo Wedding dress!  I love it, so beautiful! 

My Brother-In-Law is walking me down the isle and my son is walking my mother. 

The reception is about 30 seconds after the wedding in the same space and I love that because people will be sniffing the good food and getting ready to have a good time and get their dance on!

 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m wearing a flapper dress!

But yes I’m on the Offbeat Empire! I actually found the Bee from OBB!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m wearing a flapper dress!

But yes I’m on the Offbeat Empire! I actually found the Bee from OBB!

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

i definitely get some strange looks from people when i tell them about my wedding.

i’m getting married in disney world and my theme is ‘awesome’.

these are my ideas for hair: 

 

Post # 11
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Blushing bee

While my wedding is a few years down the road, I’m planing on wearing a very non traditional dress that I can dye a grey or black after the day and have it my go to nice event dress. I don’t understand why we buy the most expensive dress most of us will ever buy, only to wear it once. I’ll be wearing that puppy to every dinner/theatre/wedding/formal event I can!

We are also planning on having a beach wedding, with no chairs and instead our familly gathered around us while we both say a few things, no ceremony music, no bridal party, no walking down the isle, no giving away, no sand ceremonies, or candle ceremonies, or whatever else people do. We are not religious at all, so we might just get married before hand and have a small commitment type ceremony, saying why we love each other, and all that. 

For the reception, we want to have the wedding in greece so my extended family can come (they are from greece and other parts of europe), so we’ll probably just head back to the hotel, eat a ton of yummy food, drink, and dance till we get tired. No cake, no decorations, favors, tablescapes. Pretty much just a big party, and probably the only time all of our family will be together in the same place, so it’s gonna be a blast. 

We are also planning to invite people to come early and hang out on the beach with us for a few days before and after the main event, and will probably not have a honeymoon, just extend our stay there. 

All in all, completely untraditional, and I am SOO excited, I cant wait! 

Post # 12
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Blushing bee

All that said though, I am NOT looking forward to all of the “why are you doing that?”, “that’s not how it’s supposed to be done”, and everything else my mom and Future Mother-In-Law and aunts will surely bug me about. Oh well! I don’t care 🙂 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We’ve both been odd our whole lives (“You’re weird!” is a compliment right?).  Stubborn too.  So though I’ve been hearing a lot of “oh, what I am I going to do with you” type phrases, they’re cheary and loving and said with a genuine amusement of how we can be so different and be such good friends/family.  Cause anyone who knows us knows that even if some elements are “traditional” they don’t expect the whole thing to be and are thankful for what they do get traditional.  Because we are who we are, and we’re going to do what we want cause it’s our day.

So far the worst I’ve had to deal with was Future Mother-In-Law talking about how you could hire a make-up person from the mall or some such.  I had to tell her about 15 times (in a row) “I’m not wearing any make up”.  Finally I said “I draw the line at make up, he draws the line at cowboy boots”.  Luckily she stopped.   I told Fiance about it and he said “make what?… you know, there’s a lot of room to work with between make up and cowboyboots.” 🙂

The theme is frogs.  We’re having an 11 year old flower girl and probably an RC vehicle, probably a pick up with a real bed for the rings in a ring box, for a ring bearer (with a friend driving).  I did have a lady at work mention the Air Hog helicopter things, but we both feel the rings would be best on solid ground.  If we were spending a lot of money it’d probably be way out there, but we’re going cheap small back yard at a friend’s house.  So ya, off-beat.  But not much hassle from people cause we’ve been the “weird” ones our whole lives (we’re late thirties, so well established in our weirdness).

ETA: the only everyone comment we got was from an uppity jeweler who told us “yellow gold?  That’s not in right now, that’s not what everyone is doing now.”.  We both laughed and said at the same time “We don’t care what’s “in” or what everyone else is doing”.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

More OBBs! We’re pretty lucky – both our families & friends know we’re massive dorks & are prepared for the fact that we intend our wedding to be a big old geek fest.

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

You should see the reactions I get when I tell people that we’re not registering for gifts. We feel that it’s just not right for us, and obligatory gift-giving/mindless consumption is something we’re very passionately against. 

“WELL YOU SHOULD AT LEAST DO A HONEYMOON REGISTRY!” 

No, F off people, it’s my freaking wedding. 

Also, Fiance and I can afford an elaborate affair, but we chose to keep it very simple and in the backyard of his childhood home. Family members left and right have been trying to give us money because they think we can’t afford the frills. 

Honestly, this man has been my best friend my entire life. We want our big day to be about us, not about centerpieces and tired traditions. 

My standard response is usually, “This is a gift we’re giving to each other. We want it to be about us, and not about outside influences. The important part is that we end up married.” Usually people back off after that. Usually. 

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

My mum is a bit old-school & the only one who will potentially have trouble letting go of traditional ideas. My sister is 40 & while in a relationship, not ever marrying. So this is probably mum’s one & only crack at being MOB.

But she is totally down with the DIY/budget aspects, so when I frame things that “this is what is out there, but this is the cheaper, more “us” way of doing it…” and she comes around.

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