(Closed) Offended by RSVP….

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

We sent ours our on this past saturday and have gotten some back the last two days. Yesterday was the first one and it was a No also.  I was little hurt because like yours there was no note saying why but there is no ettiquette saying a person has to explain why they can’t come to a wedding.

For mine it was a person I have known since I was a child, he is an older gentleman. I assume it is because he is getting up there in age and is more a shut in now days.

 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Aw.. my wedding is a while away but I could understand that. On the other hand, I’m hoping for No’s cause that means less money spent! lol

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I know I shouldn’t but I will probably take some no’s personally… its hard not to!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I can understand the initial reaction to getting a “No” response. I can’t imagine that will be my favorite part of the wedding, but as someone said, it’s less money to spend. I am just nervous and worried no one will come. Our family has too many conflicts. πŸ™

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

Hm, maybe your friend will explain later why they can’t come? I never knew people were supposed to write explanations on the RSVP. Good to know πŸ™‚

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

πŸ™ There were a few people who RSVP’d no to our wedding with no explanation.  It is kind of frustrating, as even though they don’t owe us an explanation, we still kind of want to know why!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Though your situation is frustrating, they probably feel guilty and feel that it is easier to just check ‘regrets’. 

But at least they didn’t scratch out the number of seats for them and then write in a larger number! Then I got a big long letter about how their 16 year old daughter never went anywhere without her boyfriend and she had already invited him.  Then she even had a nerve to put in there, “I know that you wouldn’t pull a fast one on us and not let us bring who we want since we are so close to FIANCE. Thanks for understanding!”

AGH! Are you kidding? I’m letting them bring the extra people but they are all getting stuck in the far back corner.  Maybe even near the loudspeaker so its hard for them to chat all night.  (Insert evil laugh)

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

@CasaMay7: Oh sorry! I totally skipped that part in your post! But I agree, it would be nice to know why some people aren’t coming. The best way would be a phone call though, those RSVP cards are so tiny.

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