(Closed) Offensive comments about your stone being TOO big?

posted 11 years ago in Rings
Post # 137
364 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012 - Salvage One, Chicago

Ok, the lead up to this is kind of long: I’m from the midwest where I guess stones are more reserved, but I come from an upper-middle class/wealthy family, so I’m used to seeing women with big stones and all of my mom’s jewelry.  Anyway, my center stone is 1.6ct with another .8 in the band.  I’ve never said this before to anyone, but when he first opened the box to propose, I was a little disappointed. I ideally wanted something closer, if not 2ct., and had made comments suggesting that when we talked about the ring before he bought it.  FI can totally afford it, he makes more than 6 figures, and we both don’t have any debt, but he is a realist, which I love, and doesn’t throw money around unnecessarily.

So, back to comments about my stone being too big- women see my ring and tell me, “wow, he really loves you” or “oh, you’re so lucky, it’s huge”  etc.  when I really think it’s average.  I’ve never and don’t plan on saying anything to him, because I think it’s hurtful, but I don’t know how to respond to these people. I can’t say ‘oh, it’s okay’ without seeming like an incredible snob.

Post # 138
401 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Ditto on the midwest comments. 

Some are funny, like:

“Let me take a look at that… whoah! Get my sunglasses!”

“did you have to weight train for that?”


Others though, where they comment about our age or our jobs or if it’s a quaity diamond, that does offend me.

“dang that’s some ice, bet that was some serious cash.”

“he really threw down for that, didn’t he?”

“isn’t he just a pastor?”

Post # 139
166 posts
Blushing bee

Im from the midwest as well.  I never started looking womens rings until my BF bought mine.  I still havent gotten my girl though. Urgh!!!!!!!!!! But N E ways….I work with a lot of women and right now it seems like everyone is getting engaged or married.  There are a few that have some straight BLING.  I will admit I am guilty of making a few comments, but it has all been in fun.  They range from

“Dont turn your hand the wrong way…you might blind somebody!”

“Lights sabers come in finger size now?”

And my personal favorite… 

“That is a respectable used car right there”

The only reason I might be jealous is cause mine is sitting in the safe at home.  Not because of anyones size compared to mine.  I say any woman should be proud to wear the ring her man bought her to show his love. Wear it proud ladies.

Post # 140
411 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

When I got my upgrade, my FI’s family went crazy and I became someone who only cared about money. =/  They dont grasp that he wanted to buy it and that it didnt cost as much as they think it did.  Its not even a carat!

Post # 141
102 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

i have a three stone ring and the middle stone is 1.75 ish and the side stones are .25… i had a few people say “your ring is huge!” and i just go “ahh, thanks?” i mean how do you even respond to that? lol, but like many other ladies im from the midwest where i think more people tend to be conservative.

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