(Closed) Offensive comments about your stone being TOO big?

posted 10 years ago in Rings
Post # 107
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I had a kid in my class ask me if my fiance was going to have me sign a pre-nup because obviously “if he could afford a ring like mine, he must have tons of money.” I was so taken aback.

Post # 108
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I felt awkward at first because my ring is twice as big as my sister’s and is bigger than my step mom’s.  I’ve gotten some rude comments, but I just think people need to get over it.  My ring is 1 ct princess cut and .56ct in the setting with another .5 on the wedding band.  

 

Post # 109
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

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@clane616: Beautiful! It’s so unique! 

Post # 110
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I just Got engaged on March 30. I also live in the midwest and have heard many of the same comments, maybe not about the size, but just about the ring in general.. My center stone is only .57 but a F VVS1 white my setting is F VS so it sparkles.. I just smile and say “Thank You, I love it too” Its quality over quantity anyways!

Post # 111
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

My Future Mother-In-Law was really caught off guard when we told her we were planning to get married 8 months after we were engaged. Immediately afterward she made comments about my ring and how much it cost and blah blah blah. The Boy is definitely not rich, but he’d been saving up and we certainly did not miss out on anything while he was saving for my ring. It made me feel horrible and kind of embarassed about my ring (even tho IMO it’s the most gorgeous ring ever). People just get stressed, I think, and don’t really know how to else to react in some situations. She got over it, btw.

Post # 112
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

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@futuremrsbrunell: I got the “rob a bank” comment too!! Luckily I played it off pretty well by saying “well he does work at one, so you must be right’ LOL. I love it when the words come to you a the right moment.

Post # 113
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

This thread is so funny and true! It is awful that people don’t have manners anymore. The sad thing is that some people ALWAYS have to say something whether the ring is too big, unique, unique setting. Whatever happened to “if you don’t have anything nice to say,don’t say anything.”

My future SIL has just one comment and a strange smile “Oh, how odd?” Really?

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@MrsSawyer: nice comeback!

Post # 114
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@Tostones: fantastic!  All rings are special in their own way … but everyone always has something to say no matter what.  So annoying especially with something that means so much to the person wearing it.. not because of how it looks but because of what it means…

Post # 115
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Busy bee

My neighbor’s wife complained to him because my mom’s ring was so much bigger than hers… so he bought her a new one! What they didn’t know is that my mom’s ring is totally fake, and actually my grandmother’s, so it’s not even a new high tech fake XD but still super pretty 🙂

Post # 116
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Oddly enough, most of the snarky comments I’ve gotten have been from guys:

“Wow, is your fiance broke now?”

“You must drag your knuckles along the ground.”

“I would be too scared to wear something like that outside.”

and my personal favorite “Wow. That’s just obnoxious.”

The thing is, I make a POINT of not being the girl who sticks her ring under people’s noses and invites comments. And these things were said to me after pointed requests to see my ring! People can be so tactless and rude…

Post # 117
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

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@Kelley Landis: Sorry lots of people have been giving you the third degree. It’s pretty unnecessary in my opinion. Not to mention I see VERY little snarky or “self-serving” about your comment. Thanks for the stats on the ring, it is lovely & I like to know stuff like that. I don’t think it’s always a situation where someone should have to explicitly ask. It’s neat info :] keep on keeping on & sorry if you got scared away from this site. & to make a correction “everybody” is not thinking mean things about you. Maybe you could start a thread about your proposal story!

Post # 118
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2007

I made a comment on this post already and some of you thought it was offensive.  But there is nothing I can do about it now…

I’m going to be completely honest now.  To me this post sounds like “wahhhh my ring is SO big and people are mean about it.” I mean even if that wasn’t your intention that is how it sounds.  The more I thought about it and read some of the comments, that’s how it sounds to me.

And also if a girl comes on and complains about her ring being too small she gets some very mean comments about it.  So I don’t understand how a post like this is OK and that kind is not?? Oh well…

Post # 119
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Prefacing this by saying mine is an Asha but no one except Fiance and I know Wink

 

My boss has made a couple of comments: You scare the hell out of any guy considering proposing with that thing. He could have bought you a car with what that moola. That really is a massive rock. etc.

Then I found out its the exact same ct weight as what he gave his wife, so I take it all as a compliment.

 

Post # 120
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

i too live in the midwest and have gotten a few rude remarks. I just try to overlook it.

Post # 121
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

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@ja7975: SAME HERE!! I never offer up my ring and only show it when people ask or see it on their own. I just had a girl ask to see it this weekend and she looked at it, grabbed her friends arm and immediately whispered something in her ear and that’s it, never said another word to me. I was appalled! I’ve never had something so rude happen to me.

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