Post # 1
We’re doing our own music, and as I’m playing through the playlists I have I’m realizing a decent portion of them having cursing. My Fiance and I are not offended by it, but we are going to be having several older guests who may not appreciate it. Should we eliminate these songs or hope that the guests who are offended will look past it?
We’re talking Maroon 5’s Payphone level lyrics here, by the way. It’s not terribly exessive by any means.
I don’t want to make anyone uncomfortable, but we want to have fun playing music we both like, too!
Post # 3
@thursdayschild: How many older guests and how many children are you having? Grade schoolers and grannies would affect my answer. If you’re having mostly adults that are 18 and over but not elderly, great party on But if you’ve got a lot of people who are older or little ones, you may need to rethink things a bit.
Post # 4
Any way that you could get your hands on the radio edits/versions of the songs?
Post # 5
@Cappugcino: No children at all. I can think of maybe 4 or 5 people who might be offended (if they’re even listening to the music) and a couple others I’m not sure of. Mind you we’re having about 35 guests, so that’s a decent portion.
It’s going to be a mostly our peers in their mid-twenties.
@LiliKitty: I thought about this, it’s just a lot of work at this point. I wish I had thought of it sooner. Maybe I’ll get just the worst ones so it’s not a massive undertaking?
Post # 6
I think you’ll be OK. It’s not Lil Wayne or anything!
On a side note…stop listening! You don’t want to get bored of it before the big day…which is OH SO SOON!!! :o)
Post # 7
If you can find other edits, I think that’s probably a good idea. I was at a wedding where they picked up a super budget DJ who was seemed to be super budget for a reason. Aside from playing Red, Red Wine 50 billion times that night, he let slip a song with cursing.
I’m totally fine with cursing in music, everyone I know in that family is fine with it. But, it made everyone within earshot of the speakers stop and kind of look around for anyone who might be offended. So even though no one was actually offended, it stood out as being out-of-place at a wedding and made everyone stop to check to make sure there wasn’t a child or old person around who would be bothered by it.
It was a dramatic enough pause by the crowd that even super budget DJ realized that probably wasn’t a good idea, and he apologized to the crowd. Then he promptly put on Red, Red Wine. Again.
Post # 8
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
I’m keeping some of the more “risque” songs until later in the evening. Even then, we’re still using clean/radio edits for some of them.
Post # 9
I suggest radio edits for any cursing in any song. No matter what age group you have at the wedding and how formal the wedding is, it’s not a bar or a nightclub where you might expect a song with curses to come out from the DJ if he spins it. I personally think it detracts from the mood. If I’m a wedding and I hear a song with curses, I’m 28 years old and I still get this look on my face like I’m 6 years old and go “Uh oh! They cursed!!” lol it’s just not the time or place.
Post # 10
I kind of doubt people would notice. I feel like when people who don’t usually listen to rap/hip hop etc. hear it, they just sort of tune out and don’t pay attention to the lyrics. Unless it was really egregious (like “Tonight I’m Fucking You”, I probably wouldn’t play the non radio edit version ha).