(Closed) Offering Guests Financial Assistance

posted 11 years ago in Money
Post # 3
1246 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

As somebody who almost couldn’t attend a few weddings in the past, I would’ve loved some help from the bride and groom if I thought they could afford to pay for it/worry about it (although in these cases, I understood that they couldn’t). Instead of just offering money, you might offer something concrete like a plane ticket or hotel rooms. They might feel more comfortable accepting that. 

Post # 4
97 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I agree with amysue. Offering a concrete item to ease the cost (if that’s the issue) would be more comfortable. Several of my friends got married just out of college and as I was living paycheck to paycheck at the time it was extremely stressful to need to pay for a flight & hotel & bridesmaid dress & shower gift & wedding gift for ONE event. I declined to go for one of my good friend’s weddings because of the money involved. She let my absence become an issue and we really haven’t been friends since. It’s too bad and it felt silly for me to go into deeper debt just to please someone else. I don’t reget my decision even now.

Post # 5
79 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2007

If they are good enough friends, which they are since you’re inviting them to your wedding, politely and delicately enquiring about the cost should not be a problem. I would recommend asking them to keep your gift to them private just in case feathers could get ruffled with other guests that were not offered financial assistance.


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