(Closed) Offering to pay for…

posted 7 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

We refused money from his Mother’s long term boyfriend, but only because his mother is a gold digger and we feel bad for him 🙂

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I refused money from my parents because I know they really cant afford to give it.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I haven’t refused any, but I’m choosing to still plan not to use all of what’s offered… partly because then there’s room for things to go a little over budget, and partly because I know it’s not a small amount for my family. Whether the extra stays with them or they want me to use it for other things will be completely up to them, as far as I’m concerned.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We’ve refused money from our moms.  Neither of them can afford to help out, and so we had an over 2 year engagement to save up for it.  My uncle offered to help pay for a portion as our wedding gift (his words – “so I don’t have to think of something to buy you” lol) which we are using only if we go over budget but otherwise, 100% we’re paying for everything.  Rings, honeymoon, wedding, rehearsal dinner, etc.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

My parents gifted us a certain amount and said spend it as you please, we could have a big wedding or elope and keep the money, they didn’t care. If they would have said, “here’s the money…. and everyone we want to invite” i would have said no b/c I wanted a small wedding, and was not willing to compromise that.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

My inlaws offered to pay for the whole thing.  We declined since we wanted to maintain complete control of the guest list, food, etc.

There were no hard feelings.  We told them that it is a party we want to throw for ourselves and think that taking $$ to throw a party seemed silly.  If we find we are in financial trouble at a later date or to purchase our next home, then we’d be more inclined to accept help for something like that.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

We refused money from both sets of parents because we wanted to have control over the size of the wedding (my fiance REALLY wanted a <50 people wedding with mostly friends) – and if our parents were involved, the wedding would already have about 60 family members invited who we didn’t need there. We also wanted to make it simple and cheap, so we wouldn’t be spending vast sums of money on just one day. It worked out fine – my parents generously gave us the money as a wedding gift, and we have a feeling his will too – but we would have been just as happy if they had only shown up!

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