Office holiday event ?

posted 1 month ago in Career
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    Go : (10 votes)
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    Don't Go : (5 votes)
    31 %
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  • Post # 2
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2018

    sweatergal007 :  At my company its always kind of frowned upon when people bail on the holiday party events, but the office I work in is pretty small so I guess it’s maybe just more noticeable. 

    Could you just eat before the event? It would suck to miss out on a fun event because of food allergies.

    Is the event during regular work hours? If so, I would probably just go and reschedule the doc appt since it’s not an urgent matter. 

    Post # 3
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    As much as I don’t always like to go to these things, I think it’s good to make an appearance. Can you go just for a little bit, and eat before or after? 

    Post # 6
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2018

    sweatergal007 :  It’s not really anyones business why you don’t want to eat whatever food that’s there, but if you still get comments maybe it would be helpful to just get it out of the way and say “I have food allergies, I’m pretty particular about what I’ll eat, thank you for offering though” and just end the conversation. That way maybe in the future people won’t bother asking since you’ve shut down the conversation.

    I ordered pizza for our office the other day, and I went out and bought myself a salad because I’m on a diet. A couple people mentioned it and I just said I’m trying to eat healthy so I had to pass on the pizza. IT’s kind of awkward telling a group of men that I’m dieting, but they shut up about it and then I was able to enjoy our team lunch.

    Post # 7
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    Bee Keeper

    I’d definitely go for a bit and just turn down the food. It sounds annoying how persistent your co-workers on you eating, but I think it’s good to make an appearance for a bit! 

    Post # 8
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2021

    I’m not a huge fan of work social functions, because I have some mild social anxiety in what often feel like “forced” social situations; however, I think it is important to participate in these things. In any work environment, it is important to foster comraderie and a team atmosphere, and social functions play a key role in that. 

    It sucks about the food allergies making things more complicated, but any decent venue or caterer will be quite capable of providing allegy-appropriate options. 

    Especially since it is taking place during work hours, I think it would reflect more negatively on you than if you skipped a work social function that took up your personal time. 

    Post # 10
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    sweatergal007 :  Agree with PP, you should at least make an appearance. 

    I honestly don’t think people worry about you not eating as much as you think.  These days it’s so common to be gluten free, vegan, have allergies, ketogenic etc.  Obviously actual allergies are more serious than food preferences or ethical decisions, but whatever the reason is, it certainly isn’t rare for people to turn down function food.  Unless it’s a sit down meal, I doubt many will even notice.  Don’t let that prevent you from doing things. 

     

    Post # 11
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

    I personally would attend the event and prepare in whatever ways you can to deal with the food issue.  What type of event is it?  Is it just a meal, so not eating or only eating something small that is safe will be noticeable?  I have food allergies and while annoying it doesn’t usually make attending events that difficult for me and most people don’t even realize I have them.   I wouldn’t let this prevent you from attending unless you are very very uncomfortable with attending. 

    Post # 12
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    446 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

    sweatergal007 :  Just saw your recent reply.  What type of event is this one? Is it a party?  Sit down meal? I would just prepare in advance in any way you can, whether that is checking the menu beforehand or practicing some lines you can give people if they ask or urge you to eat something.  I find being very assertive in my statements helps stop people from badgering me about my food allergies. Also, can you show up a bit late and leave a bit early?

    Post # 13
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

    I’m a vegan, and agree it can be awkward when everyone else has piled – high plates and you just have a salad. I go anyways.

    If it’s a potluck, I bring something that’s hearty enough to be my full meal in case it’s all I can have. I try to bring things that other people will like, and so far I’ve gotten lots of compliments on my food.

    If it’s catering, I usually try to talk to the party planners to see if there’s anything I can eat, or if they can order a side item for me. It depends on how comfortable I am at the company though. In the job I was at for 4 years, they started thinking of me before even ordering, and asked what I would like at X restaurant. At a new job, it takes time to establish that rapport. 

    I’ve been at my current job for about 9 months and it can still be awkward explaining to people why my plate is emptier or why I can’t take one of their cookies. But it ended up being a great conversation topic with the woman sitting next to me, who was allergic to soy. And now when I make food for potlucks in the future, I’ll be sure to make it soy-free so she can have safe food too. 

    I don’t think avoiding the parties will make it any easier in the future. At some point, you’ll need to explain it to people. If they get offended at that point, that’s not on you. 

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