Post # 1
Do you get your boss an xmas present? I just started my new job and I’m not sure what is common here. I have made the gesture at every other company I’ve been at but I don’t want to seem like a newbie kiss ass. My thoughts were wine + chocolates.
Other than being a kiss ass, I’m also concerned about knowing what type of wine to choose. I’m picky about my reds but will drink essentially any whites. Everyone is different and I don’t want to guess wrong.
The third issue is that I technically have three bosses – one is a direct boss and two are my clients. One is like a peer, the other two are senior executives. I would find it less awkward giving a gift to the executives than someone at my level.
As for my coworkers, I always bring in baked goods for everyone.
What do you usually do? What should I do?
Post # 3
@MrsPanda99: I’m a firm believer that gift giving to/from bosses is inappropriate.
Post # 4
I’ve always been told you don’t gift up the chain, just down.
We do a Kris Kringle, and the bosses play, so someone gifts them. But if it were’t for that, no one would. (FWIW, they don’t actually give us gifts either. They do put on a lunch for us though.)
Post # 5
We do a white elephant in my office and I always get stuck with something crappy (going on 3 years now) so I’m picking out something equally as crappy for a gift to give, we really do this all in fun. Other than that I give nothing. I’m traveling overseas this year and am very close with a coworker and I’ll probably bring her back chocolates but that’s more of a friend gift than a work gift.
I like your idea of wine and chocolate. I am with you, many people are particular on red wines so I’d give white wine and make sure it’s not too sweet or dry. Even if they don’t like it, it’s really the thought that counts and I’m sure they will remember you thought of them during the holiday season.
Post # 6
I agree with julies1949 – I don’t think you gift your bosses.
Post # 7
@julies1949: How come? I’m genuinely curious and almost always agree with your insights. Usually my bosses give me presents and I give them presents. I’ve never found it weird.
Post # 8
At our company (about 20 people) we all throw in some cash (whatever we’re comfortable with) and just get the boss a gift card.
Post # 9
@MrsPanda99: It could be because I’ve always worked in government jobs. It’s easier to be impartial, neutral and fair if neither the employer nor the emloyee are potentially affected by the gifts they have received from the other.
It’s the perception that is important, not whether or not there really is any favoritism.
I have also encouraged fellow employees at every worksite I have worked, to use the money they would have spent on a gift exchange to sponsor a family instead. Most of us are so blessed and really don’t need another mug filled with poor quality chocolate when there are families out there who literally only have one set of clothes each.
Post # 10
You gift down or sideways on the company ladder, never up. That’s always been how I’ve been told and experienced.
Post # 11
@julies1949: I disagree, but I think it needs to be an all or nothing thing.
Sometimes all of the people will pitch in for a gift or a card for their boss. Sometimes bosses get a gift for everyone. That’s ok.
Another option is to bring in baking or something for everyone to share, including a boss.
Post # 12
I guess our dept. is a little odd, because we all gift. We pitch in for a big gift for the main boss, and we give one another little items. I never spend more than $10 per person. Technically I do give gifts to my superiors, and they give me small gifts as well.
Post # 13
@tksjewelry: Interesting! That’s never been my experience. I am closest with my bosses and the senior folks. I’d think if I was doing a poor job they’d fire me despite a bottle of wine. I’m not sure how far a $50 gift would go as a bribe, lol.
Post # 14
I would never give gifts to a boss. Think it’s inappropriate.
Post # 15
@MrsPanda99: I would definetly give a gift to a client. A nice bottle of wine is perfectly fine. Pottery Barn has really cute wine bottle bags/charms/etc you can add so it’s a little “fancier”. This is so pretty:
Post # 16
I’ve always gifted my bosses but none of my work environments have ever been too corporate-y. And I gift because I feel close to them and get along with them. One company was just myself, another admin, and the owner/boss and I was there for two years. My current office now has 10 employees and I’ve been here for about two and a half years. The first Christmas I got him a jar of almond rocha ’cause it’s his favorite, the second year a $15 iTunes gift card (because he uses his iPad for work and buys all kinds of apps), and this year I’ll be giving him a bottle of liquor. Our holiday parties are at his house. In this case, I don’t feel that it’s inappropriate.