(Closed) Officer uniform for outdoor wedding

posted 6 years ago in Military
  • poll: What uniform should my FI wear for our outdoor Texas wedding?
    Mess Dress : (2 votes)
    33 %
    Semi-Formal Service Dress : (2 votes)
    33 %
    Some other option we haven't considered (comment below please!!) : (2 votes)
    33 %
  • Post # 3
    1710 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

    Is it an absolute must for your Fiance to wear his uniform?  It’s expensive and you’re right, junior officers aren’t required to wear the mess dress until they reach O4 (at least for the Navy).  I also wouldn’t want to require his Bridesmaid or Best Man to buy that uniform either.  IMO, only a person’s chain of command should require what uniform a member buys, so for me, I’d stick with suits for everyone.

    Post # 5
    300 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @djames425:  Renting is not a bad option. Especially in Texas, San Antonio is full of AF. I’m pretty sure you can find somewhere to borrow or rent from. My dad was AF and he rented until he hit the rank he had to buy. It would be weird for the two guys to have different ‘level’ uniforms. If your Fiance does end up with the mess dress maybe his friend could just wear civvies?

    My husband and I are both navy, and I knew he didn’t want to wear his uniform for the wedding. However, when we decided to elope during a break in his deployment we decided his service dress was appropriate for the size of the wedding (15 guests), and he didn’t have anything else anyway 🙂

    Post # 6
    239 posts
    Helper bee

    @djames425:  there usually is an option to rent a mess dress from clothing and sales on a lot of the bases.  i think for a wedding, as an officer, mess dress is the way to go.  it is an expensive uniform to buy,  main reason i don’t own one yet, but it is a requirement for all intents and purposes.  i’ve never gone to an event where i’ve needed to wear mess dress but that is because i’ve avoided going to such events….like af balls and the like. 

    Post # 7
    39 posts
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I asked my fiance (also will be USAF 2LT after graduation) and he thinks that mess dress is a required purchase on commissioning for AF officers. We don’t know about Army, but at least it sounds like you’d have to have it anyway.


    According to the AFI 36-2903 (the dress and appearance manual), the semi-formal service dress is Enlisted-Only. He thinks that either uniform might be miserable for an outdoor wedding in Texas, but that he’d probably wear his service dress, especially since the best man only has his dress greens.


    One thing to keep in mind, your Fiance would have to salute any higher-ranking officers at your wedding while in service dress. He said that nicer/more-relaxed officers wouldn’t worry too much about this, but outside in mess dress, he wouldn’t have to salute at all. 


    Sounds like a tough decision. My fiance is just wearing his service dress to our indoor church wedding, but our ceremony and reception are really laidback, so mess dress would be out of place. Feel free to PM me, if you want to chat or vent at all. 


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