(Closed) Official way to ask Bridesmaids?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
864 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@futuremrsnjuguna: Hey! You’re a 2012 bride like me!!! I haven’t asked my bridesmaids yet but I plan on doing so in January or February. I  bought these “will you be my bridesmaids/flowergirl,etc cards” and they are blank inside. I am going to write different poems in each asking them to be in my wedding party and then mail them out. They are really cute and cant wait to send them. They will not be expecting that at all which makes it a fun surprise!

Good Luck to you!

Post # 4
10287 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m personally a fan of doing a little something special. You’re asking these girls to be part of the most important day of your lives, it’s not like asking them to go get a mani/pedi with you. I think just coming out and asking is kind of boring, even though thats what most brides do (and what every single friend who I’ve been a bmaid for has done – wheres the creativity ladies!).

Anyways, my 3 best friends are my bridesmaids. We normally meet for lunch together once a month due to crazy busy schedules. The “monthly meetup” after we were engaged was when I asked my girls. We’re all about trying new places for lunch since we’ve been to pretty much every restaurant and cafe in our town so I found this place kind of off the beaten path that is a cafe but also a cupcake bakery. I called ahead (like a week prior) and spoke to the owner about getting some cupcakes custom made. I had 2 “Will you be my bridesmaid?” cupcakes and 1 “Will you be my maid of honor?” cupcake made. They came packaged in cute window boxes…

After everyone had arrived we ordered our food (which I treated them to) and I presented them with their cupcakes. They absolutely loved them! While I do wish the writing would have been a little neater, the baker did warn me that it would be tough to fit everything onto the cupcake so its no biggie. The girls could still read what they said. The bakery even made me a “Bride” cupcake for free (which for the record, I did not order!).

They ended up screwing up the flavors since I ordered white cake with raspberry filling and raspberry frosting but ended up getting white cake with vanilla frosting but its all good. The cupcakes were HUGE and absolutely delicious.

My girls absolutely loved them and really appreciated that I put a little extra effort into it. 

ETA: My MOH’s cupcake fell over on the way home. When she opened it up to show her boyfriend, it read “Will you be my ho?”. Still makes me laugh every time I think about it. 

Post # 5
1328 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I found cute little cards (generic) at Michaels and wrote a long note about our friendship and then asked if they would be a bridesmaid! 


Side note:  Just my opinion, since you’re getting married in 2012, I’d wait on asking them.  I asked a couple that are still going to be bm, but I’d rather they not since our friendships have changed, events have occured, etc.  You just never know what will happen! 

Post # 6
6247 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

@trulyblessed: I hope you don’t mind if I borrow your idea.  The girls that I want to ask to be my bridesmaids are all different ages and live in different areas (and we all have crazy schedules) so meeting for dinner & drinks is probably not a reality for me.  I like the unexpected surprise of receiving a formal “Will you be my bridesmaid?” question in the mail.  Thanks for sharing your idea!

Post # 7
864 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@M.Ruder: I also agree with waiting which is why I haven’t asked anyone yet. I got engaged in September and everyone keeps asking me who is going to be in the wedding and I just say that I will probably ask the beginning of next year. I have noticed that a few of my relationships with friends have changed once I got engaged which I am very shocked considering I was there for them when they got married. But I am sure that due to the fact they both are getting a divorce after a year of marriage has something to do with it. So, my wedding party will be family and I am happy with that decision.

I have heard of some horrer stories of people asking the wedding party too early. This is why I am waiting and just enjoying being engaged for now.

Post # 8
439 posts
Helper bee

I made cards for 3 of my girls (because they’re in MI and I’m in FL).  They were super cute.  I cut them out with my Cricut.  If I were still in MI, I would have just asked them in person.  I just asked my sisters over the phone because they don’t care about girlie stuff like cards at all.

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