(Closed) officially asking someone to be your girlfriend?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

my hubby officially asked my to be his gf…. i would elaborate, but i am ssoaking jalapeno pepper burns on my dominant hand…..  🙁

 

So…. i don’t think that it is weird.  😛

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

It sounds kind of strange…how old is she though?  If she’s a teen, it’s probably not as strange just because I remember how we would “like each other for a while and finally become bf/gf out of the blue haha.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

It is just slang. That is what my friends and I always said in place of “asked me to be his girlfriend” or “go steady.” I am 22, so I am obviously still young, and actually close in age to juniors in college, but yeh, that is just how a lot of us say it. 🙂

Edit: Perhaps I misread the post, but I agree with the poster below me that you still need to ask to be exclusive. Anything before that is just deciding if you want to actually be exclusive.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I don’t think so.  I thought in adult world you still had to ask to be exclusive.  Or at least have the conversation that you weren’t seeing anyone else.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Ok yeah, that’s a little strange.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@divergirl: 

But how would they both know that that is what they were thinking if neither said anything? How would you know until he asked? 

You said that he was undecided about officially dating her, well this is him officially telling her that he wants to be her boyfriend.

I asked my boyfriend if that was what he was going to be after what might have been considered a couple of dates (we were 16 at the time) but it still needed to be cleared up. Were we just having fun and going on a couple of dates, or would he be there for me? When I introduced him, was it as “friend” or “boyfriend”?

I think that it is sweet and totally logical to be blunt about it and make it clear that he is going to be her boyfriend.

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper

We were 25 when we started dating, and my husband definitely asked me to be his girlfriend.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I don’t think it’s strange in the least.  I asked Mr.Cosmo if we were exclusive after a few dates…

The only strange part is that it happened so quickly…I think they should have dated once or twice before deciding to go steady.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I don’t think it’s strange. Going one one date doesn’t make you a couple. When I was a junior in college, my then-bf (now-FI), who was 28 at the time, asked me after a few dates, “What are we doing here? Are you my girlfriend?”

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I don’t think it’s weird at all.  In high school people ask the person they’re “dating” to be their girlfriend because it’s cute (most highschoolers don’t actively go on dates with multiple people).  Whereas in college it is completely acceptable to go on a date with one person one day and a different person the next.  If no one clarifies whether they’re boyfriend/girlfriend yet, then for all they know the other person is still actively dating other people.

I don’t think I’ve had someone actually ask me “will you be my girlfriend?” since I was in high school, but any guy I dated while in college (including fi) at least had the “exclusive” and/or “we’re bf/gf now” conversation at some point.

Fi and I dated for 3 months before we were “official”.  Those last 2 months we were spending so much time together I don’t think I would have had the time to date other people, but during the first month he wasn’t the only person I “went on dates” with.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

PS – there was a guy I dated before I was with fi that was super indecisive like the guy you’re sister is with, and as soon as he decided he even wanted to date me, he wanted to be exclusive, so what’s going on with your sister isn’t unheard of.  I used to joke that he was a perfect Katy Perry song (“you change you mind like a girl changes clothes”) hahaha, and after he did decide he wanted to be with me it didn’t last long.  I was just kind of already over it from the months of him changing his mind all the time.

That was a few years ago, and we’re still friends but he’s lonely as hell and openly admits he’s jealous of how my love-life turned out.  Sucks for him, maybe he shouldn’t have played games with me for months before he decided I was worth dating…hahahaha, yes, I enjoy how this all turned out…

Post # 16
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

haha i dont find it strange, since I  was the indecisive one..after 3 months of “seeing” my Fiance i was like..so do i get to call you my boyfrined now? he was like i’ve been waiting for this for months.

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