(Closed) Officially Waiting… Did he surprise you with the ring?

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Did you help pick the ring?
    He picked it by himself. : (9 votes)
    25 %
    I picked it. : (11 votes)
    31 %
    I gave him a list, he chose one. : (2 votes)
    6 %
    I gave him ideas, but he picked. : (8 votes)
    22 %
    Other. : (6 votes)
    17 %
  • Post # 3
    2433 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I had no input on my ring. I mentioned VERY early in our relationship that I liked princess-cut stones, and my now-husband chose a radiant-cut solitare (A square diamond, but the facets are different from a princess).

    I had no idea he was purchasing it when he did. I absolutely love my ring, and I love that he chose it all on his own. He grins so wide anytime anyone compliments it.

    If I could do it over, I would not want to have any input on the ring. I saw it as a gift to me, chosen by him. 

    Post # 5
    24 posts
    • Wedding: January 2012

    I didnt really have any input he new I prefered rounds stones from other jewlery he had gotten me but otherwise he chose and chose perfectly!

    Post # 6
    2691 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I was waiting for a little over a year before my Fiance popped the question. We went ring shopping together, but honestly he probably could have picked it himself I told him so many times what I wanted. Here is my beauty:


    Post # 7
    838 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    While I DID get the one I wanted, he was the one who decided to get it for me 🙂 I showed it to him very very early on in our relationship (like, week two), and we went to see it a few times after that. I told him I did not need that ring, that I would be happy with anything else (and by that I meant anything else that was less expensive), but he got it for me, anyway 😀

    Post # 8
    458 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I thought my Fiance was going to be super-traditional and get what he wanted for me…but as the time approached, I think he got nervous and started asking me general questions regarding what I like.  But his philosophy also is “you’re the one who’s going to have to wear it, so you’d better like it more than me!”

    Post # 9
    295 posts
    Helper bee

    I  gave him ideas, hope he remembers them when the time is there…

    Post # 10
    594 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I love how romantic it is when a guy picks out a ring for his fiance – but I am super picky and my thought is if I am going to wear it every day for the rest of my life I’d like a say. Turns our my boyfriend wanted me to pick entirely. I was happy to pick the setting but Ive asked him to pick the diamond, that way Im not making any inferences as to his budget.


    I am jealous of all the ladies who were suprised with beautiful rings – there would be nothing more romantic than a completely suprising proposal. With picking it out – you know its coming at some point so it feels a little bit less special – but Im optomistic he’ll still find a way to suprise me!


    If you would really prefer a princess cut diamond I think it is never too late to mention it! If I were a guy I would find picking a ring very stressful and it might be nice to have a bit of direction!

    Post # 11
    192 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    Fi chose by himself and if i had actually physically been there I could not have chosen better.

    I was surprised with a ring that exceeded any ring I’d dreamt about. 

    Post # 12
    1583 posts
    Bumble bee

    @CoCoCourtney:  I was going to let my SO pick the ring out. He initially asked my mom what I wanted. So he knew the stone. The jeweler told him a lot of couples end up having to get something new 5 years in because the girl lied about liking the ring initially.

    Now, I sent him a picture of what I want and he is having something custom. So while the ring will be a surprise it will be in the vacinity of the style I love. He admitted he would have never chosen what I suggested. My mom said “vintage” I like art deco! hahaha

    Post # 13
    5001 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I chose because I had an heirloom stone. He said if he did it himself, it would have been a round stone with a diamond band. I’m sure it would have been pretty, but it’s too trendy for my liking and I wanted to use my grandmother’s stone. We got a 3-stone emerald cut and I love it!

    Post # 14
    1133 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    My poor SO doesn’t even understand what a “setting” means!  Haha, we are not engaged yet, but he just bought the centre stone last night, and I am currently in the process of finding a setting for the stone.  He asked me to tell him exactly what I want.  I’ve seen the centre stone already too, because a purchase so expensive, he wanted to make 100% sure I like it (even though I would honestly love anything he gave me). 

    So I’m picking out the setting and stone, I get to see them separately, and then when he proposes is when I’ll actually see the whole ring together.

    Post # 15
    1480 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    I picked it out. SO had only gotten me two pieces of jewelry before we started talking about getting engaged, one of which I absolutely LOVE and the other I hate haha. He really likes “different” things (more unusual than the norm) so it made me nervous to think about him going slightly off the wall for a ring that I’m going to wear for the rest of my life.

    Also, since the second gift I made a pinterest board with things I like. He used it for Christmas presents for me, but also got me something he really liked. It’s ok, not really my style, but I wear it every once in a while – as well as the necklace he gave that I don’t like – because it’s a gift from him and that’s more than enough reason for me to wear it. Smile

    Post # 16
    2640 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

    I’m wondering about this also!

    I showed SO one that I love, Love, LOVE, but I had some others on the list. Now that we’re getting closer, I’m dying wondering whether he’ll get the one I fantasize about or if he is going in a totally different direction.


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