Post # 1
I’ve been waiting for a while now, but now I feel like posting about it! I think I’ve been afraid of jinxing it.
My SO has told me he is saving for a ring, and that he’s told his parents he is saving- which to me means it won’t be crazy long, right?
We were just talking about it and I asked him if I’m going to get any input/help pick out the ring at all and he laughed at me, which is pretty much what I was expecting. He is into the idea of tradition and thinks that it’s his job to pick out the ring on his own, but I’m a little worried… He’s only given me a couple of pieces of jewlery before, neither of which I would have picked for myself but I wear them because of the sentiment. They’re both mixed metal pieces, so hasn’t even caught on to the fact that I like white/silver, but I guess since I keep wearing the mixed things that he bought, how would he know?. Obviously, I’ll be happy with anything and knowing that he thinks picking the perfect ring is an important job to him will make it special.
Tonight he mentioned it would be round, and now after the fact, I wish I had just brought up the fact that I really like princess cut stones… damn, I missed that chance… ha
So, to any of you ladies that didn’t get any input on your ring, how did it turn out? If it is different from what you wanted, do you still love it? Do you wish you had spoken up before?
Post # 3
I had no input on my ring. I mentioned VERY early in our relationship that I liked princess-cut stones, and my now-husband chose a radiant-cut solitare (A square diamond, but the facets are different from a princess).
I had no idea he was purchasing it when he did. I absolutely love my ring, and I love that he chose it all on his own. He grins so wide anytime anyone compliments it.
If I could do it over, I would not want to have any input on the ring. I saw it as a gift to me, chosen by him.
Post # 4
@MrsEdamame: Aww.. I really liked your response. I guess I need to keep reminding myself of what it’s all about. I still love having the other jewelry he has given me, so why would a ring be any different?
Post # 5
I didnt really have any input he new I prefered rounds stones from other jewlery he had gotten me but otherwise he chose and chose perfectly!
Post # 6
I was waiting for a little over a year before my Fiance popped the question. We went ring shopping together, but honestly he probably could have picked it himself I told him so many times what I wanted. Here is my beauty:
Post # 7
While I DID get the one I wanted, he was the one who decided to get it for me 🙂 I showed it to him very very early on in our relationship (like, week two), and we went to see it a few times after that. I told him I did not need that ring, that I would be happy with anything else (and by that I meant anything else that was less expensive), but he got it for me, anyway 😀
Post # 8
I thought my Fiance was going to be super-traditional and get what he wanted for me…but as the time approached, I think he got nervous and started asking me general questions regarding what I like. But his philosophy also is “you’re the one who’s going to have to wear it, so you’d better like it more than me!”
Post # 9
I gave him ideas, hope he remembers them when the time is there…
Post # 10
I love how romantic it is when a guy picks out a ring for his fiance – but I am super picky and my thought is if I am going to wear it every day for the rest of my life I’d like a say. Turns our my boyfriend wanted me to pick entirely. I was happy to pick the setting but Ive asked him to pick the diamond, that way Im not making any inferences as to his budget.
I am jealous of all the ladies who were suprised with beautiful rings – there would be nothing more romantic than a completely suprising proposal. With picking it out – you know its coming at some point so it feels a little bit less special – but Im optomistic he’ll still find a way to suprise me!
If you would really prefer a princess cut diamond I think it is never too late to mention it! If I were a guy I would find picking a ring very stressful and it might be nice to have a bit of direction!
Post # 11
Fi chose by himself and if i had actually physically been there I could not have chosen better.
I was surprised with a ring that exceeded any ring I’d dreamt about.
Post # 12
@CoCoCourtney: I was going to let my SO pick the ring out. He initially asked my mom what I wanted. So he knew the stone. The jeweler told him a lot of couples end up having to get something new 5 years in because the girl lied about liking the ring initially.
Now, I sent him a picture of what I want and he is having something custom. So while the ring will be a surprise it will be in the vacinity of the style I love. He admitted he would have never chosen what I suggested. My mom said “vintage” I like art deco! hahaha
Post # 13
I chose because I had an heirloom stone. He said if he did it himself, it would have been a round stone with a diamond band. I’m sure it would have been pretty, but it’s too trendy for my liking and I wanted to use my grandmother’s stone. We got a 3-stone emerald cut and I love it!
Post # 14
My poor SO doesn’t even understand what a “setting” means! Haha, we are not engaged yet, but he just bought the centre stone last night, and I am currently in the process of finding a setting for the stone. He asked me to tell him exactly what I want. I’ve seen the centre stone already too, because a purchase so expensive, he wanted to make 100% sure I like it (even though I would honestly love anything he gave me).
So I’m picking out the setting and stone, I get to see them separately, and then when he proposes is when I’ll actually see the whole ring together.
Post # 15
I picked it out. SO had only gotten me two pieces of jewelry before we started talking about getting engaged, one of which I absolutely LOVE and the other I hate haha. He really likes “different” things (more unusual than the norm) so it made me nervous to think about him going slightly off the wall for a ring that I’m going to wear for the rest of my life.
Also, since the second gift I made a pinterest board with things I like. He used it for Christmas presents for me, but also got me something he really liked. It’s ok, not really my style, but I wear it every once in a while – as well as the necklace he gave that I don’t like – because it’s a gift from him and that’s more than enough reason for me to wear it.
Post # 16
- Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa
I’m wondering about this also!
I showed SO one that I love, Love, LOVE, but I had some others on the list. Now that we’re getting closer, I’m dying wondering whether he’ll get the one I fantasize about or if he is going in a totally different direction.