- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2016
Hi Bees! So I’ve been on the waiting list and lurking hardcore for a while now, but I always figured engagement was a year or so down the line for SO and me. Turns out, I was wrong. Just this weekend my Daddy let me know that SO has asked for my hand in marriage. How excited am I!
Turns out, I’m more confused than excited. At 20 years old (21 in 53 days!) I am considered by the “normal” world to be too young to be thinking about engagment. I want to be excited. There is no doubt in my mind that SO and I were made for each other. We have been through alot together and I want to spend my life with him. The problem is that I’m still in college, and he is fresh out of Army AIT training and a little in limbo. Despite all this, he has bought a ring and had a proposal planned. Until I ruined it.
See I am getting all this pressure from my best friend (who I stupidly told in excitement/panic) and my parents. They think we’re too young and not ready. After 48 hours of straight stress and conflict, I had to talk to SO about his intentions.
He was upset that I ruined his big romantic surprise, but he respects the relationship I have with my dad. He explained that he sees engagement as a relationship step. He sees it as a chance to show how dedicated and serious he is about our relationship. He thinks of me as more than his girlfriend, but he is not financially ready to make me his wife. He thinks being engaged should be for like 3-5 years. I was in the mindset that when you get engaged you are ready to get married ASAP.
So now we fully understand each other, and I’m feeling better about the whole situation. I have accepted SO’s view of engagement, and I’m excited to take this next step. I’m officially in waiting for that pretty, sparkly, special ring. I am kind of worried about what my family and friends will think though.
Has anyone ever gone through anything like this? How do you see engagement? I guess the short story is that Im looking for some advice. Thanks =]