- 8 years ago
I’ve been dating my boyfriend for 4 1/2 years and we’ve been living together for 2 1/2 years. I’m about to finish law school and take the bar. He’s been working at a good job since he finished grad school 3 1/2 years ago.
I’ve been ready to say “yes” for years now, but I can’t say that I was really waiting for a proposal until about a month ago. My birthdays don’t usually bother me, but a few weeks ago when I turned 28, I suddenly freaked out about my life plan. I started worrying that my boyfriend had no plans to marry me in the foreseeable future, that he was too comfortable just living with me, that I was going to wait for him for years and years only to find out that I could no longer have children, etc.
I tried to make myself relax. Based on some comments that he’s made over the years, I suspected that he planned to wait until after I finished law school to get engaged. I definitely didn’t expect him to propose on Valentine’s Day, which is not important to either of us. But I just couldn’t get it out of my mind. It was completely stressing me out, and I was having trouble concentrating on my work.
Anyway, after catching me crying a few times, he finally figured out what was wrong last night. He told me that he had been planning to ask me this summer after I take the bar, probably while we were out of town. He said that he didn’t want to distract me by asking before the exam.
I apologized for ruining the surprise and for freaking out on him. He said that it was okay and that we probably should be talking about our future more clearly. I apologized for being impatient and he said that I was not being impatient – that we had been together for a long time.
So now I feel embarrassed that I doubted him and that I ruined the surprise, but I feel so much better! I’m not going to consider myself engaged until he actually asks, but now that I know it’s coming I can relax and enjoy the anticipation!