(Closed) Officiant asked if he can skip the rehearsal???

posted 5 years ago in Logistics
Post # 2
1467 posts
Bumble bee

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dreamr12:  are you sure he didn’t mean the rehearsal dinner?

Post # 3
984 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

Is your rehearsal the day before your wedding, and if so, can you provide him with a hotel room for that night so that he doesn’t have to travel back and forth?

Post # 5
7365 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Was there a contract that you stated that him attending was a requirement? Does his fee include this?

Post # 6
7887 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I thought the officiant was an integral part in figuring out how the ceremony would go. Can you skype him into the rehearsal? If it’s really far out for him, perhaps you could pay him for mileage. 

Post # 7
860 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Of all the weddings I’ve been part of the officiant has never been part of the rehearsal without an additional fee.

Post # 8
47430 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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dreamr12:  Don’t assume anything. Contact the venue. If there is someone there who is familiar with the logistics of the ceremony, then you will be fine.

Have you had a run through of the ceremony with your officiant, so you know what to say and when?

Post # 9
2129 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016


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2monthweddingplanner:  I’m so glad you chimed in….The officiant I think we’re going with charges an additional fee for rehearsal…so we will not see him until the ceremony lol

Post # 10
174 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I highly recommend a run through with the officiant. Sometimes it’s just as much to their benefit too. Our officiant didn’t even show up to the rehearsal the day before. We confirmed with him the day prior, and called him after a half hour of waiting and he said he was on his way to perform another wedding. When we PAID him for a rehearsal. As a result, he completely skipped my sister’s reading (I had to remind him while we’re standing at the damn altar), forgot parts of our hand binding blessing, and said a prayer, when we had previously discussed I wished to have a non religious ceremony. 

Post # 11
4017 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

We had two priests officiate our wedding, and the one who was acting as the head officiant couldn’t make our rehearsal because he had two rehearsals he had to be at in one day. My family has a very good relationship with this particular priest (he’s married everyone in my family), and even though it made me a little uncomfortable I felt that it would work itself out. He left a very detailed list of the order of events for the other  priest, so that helped alleviate some of my fears. I think as long as he is in contact with the person acting in his place that night then it should be fine. 

Post # 12
715 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Where I live it’s a legal requirements to offer a rehearsal if wanted. I’d tell him no, your sorry but you’d really feel more comfortable with him there.

Now I chose to not have a rehearsal so he drafted a script and emailed it to us edited when asked and sent the final version so I knew it would be fine.  So maybe you could ask for a similar service.

Post # 13
900 posts
Busy bee

Officiant doesn’t have to be apart the rehearsal. In fact they usually charge extra.

Post # 14
543 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Sorry but no I would not be ok with this. An Officiant needs to be there. 

The rehersal is included as part of the fee I’ve paid. 


Post # 15
9388 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

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dreamr12:  a good chunk of what you’re paying him for includes travel and leading the rehearsal.  If he isn’t providing that service, he better refund you a huge portion of his fees–I’d personally ask for 175 of the 450 fee back if my officiant tried that, since she charges 275 for “small weddings”. 

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