(Closed) Officiant Donation – How much?

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

My pastor always says he never knows what to tell people to charge, so he always tells them 3% of their overall budget if they have a small budget, and caps it at a larger amount… which could get to be a lot, so maybe cap it around $500?

Good luck!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

My mom’s dad was a rabbi – based on what he always recieved, even from members of the congregation who paid dues, my parents are planning to give our rabbi $500. If I was paying I would not give so much since Fiance and I are now members of the congregation. Since you don’t pay dues to his congregation and he has to travel, I would think at least $500 is appropriate. If you are meeting with him several times before the ceremony I would offer more. Also, you should feed him (after the rehearsal if he’s going to be there AND at the wedding). For comparison, our ceremony guitarist is getting $225 for the ceremony with just 1 hour consultation, not doing the rehearsal, and 45 minute drive each way. We’re also feeding him after the ceremony.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

$500 really? wow. that’s not what we were told or what we read. the donation is just that; a donation. you do not have to give anything but if you do it’s helpful and appreciated. i read that anywhere between $60-100 is enough. usually somewhere in the middle is expected though.

Post # 7
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Helper bee

I though $200 was about average.

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2010

WOW…I read from a catholic priest on another board that he charges about $450, and I thought “is this man for real?” I see here that is about the range being given. I think it’s WAY too much for no more then what is done, but hubby then said that if people are spending thousands upon thousands for a wedding then what’s another $400-$500? Which in all is true, but I’m trying to stay below $3000 for our daughters wedding so we’re paying our pastor $100-$150.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Luckily I didn’t really have to figure it out – the church kind of gave us suggested amounts. For the priest we’ll give him $150, then do a $100 church donation, then $50 for musician.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

We were planning on giving him a gift card to Life Way and a tie to wear on our wedding day (so that he matches).

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m not sure how much you’re supposed to give your officiant as a donation. I was just curious when do you give it to him, before the ceremony or after?

Post # 13
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Helper bee

I live in Indy and the going rate I have seen for a pastor is 150.00. If they have to travel out of the metro area then they charge a travel fee. I would say since he has to travel so far, I would pay him 300.00 to 400.00 depending on your budget.

@thefuturemrsgibbs- You are suppose to give the check to the best man and have him hand it to the pastor discretly after the ceremony.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

charmedlife357 Oh so I’m supposed to have the best man hold on to the donation check and have him donate it to the pastor right after the ceremony discreetly. If we have a lot of money left over after the wedding… I will. 


Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I am very unsure what to do in our our situation.  FI’s uncle who’s an ex pastor is marrying us.  His entire family is travelling across the country to come to the wedding + making a family vacation out of it.  He’s done monthly 1 hr pre marrital councelling with us for about 3 months so far and will handle the rehearsal + 15-20 minute ceremony.

Do we pay him since he’s family? 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Rgeddy Do you mean do you give him a “donation” since he’s family? I think you can give him a nice gift since the officiant is part of the wedding party.

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