(Closed) Officiant fee= donation?

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
6830 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

It is the same thing as a donation.  You are “donating” money to use the chruch/pastor. You would need to ask your pastor about who the check goes to. I believe for ours (almost 2 yrs ago now) we made it out to the church directly.

Post # 4
430 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I have heard of this too.  My situation is a bit different as we aren’t having a church wedding rather the pastor is coming to us.  His officiant fee is actually the donation to the church, that is what he told us.

Post # 5
2375 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Donation and fee are the same thing functionally.  They say donation to make it sound nicer, kinda like how wedding photographers say ‘investment’ instead of ‘price’.  If you are having a ceremony in the church, there may be a fee for the room itself, as well as the fee for the officiant.  They’ll normally give you a ‘suggested donation’ or ‘minimum donation’.  Premarital counseling is a different fee and is usually paid at the time of counseling.  Depending on the church, you may have to pay part or all of the officiant & room fee to reserve the date.  Ask the church office how they would like the payments, they do this pretty often, so they’ll have a system down 🙂

I’ve actually never heard of the pastor attending the rehearsal dinner, so I’m not sure how that would go. 


Post # 6
2023 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Just a reminder – contributions (donations) to your church are tax deductible!!!

Post # 7
70 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@mkelove:  Pretty sure Im in the same boat! We are using our church but my uncle is marrying us (he is a pastor at another church) do I give the donation to both my church and my uncle?

Post # 8
16195 posts
Honey Beekeeper

At our church, non-members were charged an honorarium for the pastor. If you are a member, the honorarium is waived, but a donation is still encouraged. So I’m thinking you should consider them the same thing. The honorarium to the pastor is essentially a donation to the church.

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