Post # 1
Our ceremony officiant is the youth pastor at a church in the town we are marrying. He is a family friend, but we don’t know him personally (if that makes sense!) FI’s mom took care of “reserving” him for our ceremony yesterday, but found out that although he is licensed to wed, it wouldn’t be a technically religious wedding (not sure why?) he doesn’t actually charge anything, especially for us.
We want to do something for him, obviously. Any suggestions? We could give a donation, but since he and his wife have 2 little ones, we considered a weekend getaway or a large gift certificate to a nice restaurant. What do you think?
Post # 3
I should mention we are not getting married in his church, we are getting married in a church turned museum.
Post # 4
I think the gift certificate to a restaurant is ideal. I’d love it. Since they have 2 little ones they probably don’t have abundance of time to do special things so I’d go one for a popular, fancy restaurant. So they can have a date night. The weekend away thing is an awesome idea too, but they’d have to put some money into that as well, for travel, food, activities. And if you don’t know him, its hard to say if that’s financially possible for them.
Post # 5
@jennifer – that is a good point. I definitely don’t want to get them something they can’t use. I don’t know their financial situation. I think we will stick with the gift card. There is a steakhouse we love here in town that is pretty pricey (we only go for Valentine’s Day) so maybe we will do that!
Post # 6
What about a monetary gift to the officiant? With 2 small kids, a gift certificate to a restaurant may be difficult/expensive to use because they’ll have to get a babysitter. Or maybe a gift card to a restaurant that’s kid friendly?
Post # 7
we are making a church donation as the “fee” and then getting the pastor and his wife a restaurant gift card as a personal thank you. He has known me since I was about 10.
Post # 8
I think a gift card to a restaurant is a good idea, but I’m with owlbride on the babysitter thing. Those babysitters can be pretty expensive!
Post # 9
We are giving our officiant a nice bottle of wine and maybe a restaurant GC. Not sure what church your pastor is a part of, but many of them donate any cash gifts to the church. So if you want it to go to HIM not the church, a gift card or other gift would be better.