Post # 1
Can anyone shed some light on some questions I have regarding officiants? I have contacted about 8-10 people (found them by Googling “Pittsburgh wedding officiants”) and most of them are WAY too expensive — like $500!! And they want extra for the rehearsal.
Our budget is around $200, so I am thinking that we might have to get a mayor or justice of the peace to marry us . . . . but I am nervous that someone like that will be really cold, indifferent, and impersonal. Also, will a city official travel to my venue (a theater)? Does anyone have any positive experiences with this?
The only other option is that, apparently, in PA, if you list your religion as “Quaker” when applying for a marriage license, anyone can marry you — like, a stranger off the street, as long as 2 witnesses are present.
Our wedding is going to have around 200 people, so the witnesses won’t be a problem, but I can’t see how some random person can “officially” marry 2 people. Plus, everyone close to us will be either a bridesmaid or groomsmen, so I don’t know who else I would ask to marry us.
Are there any other options out there??
Post # 3
@Stace126: Do you not want someone who is affiliated with a chruch? My pastor for example told me straight out that he doesn’t believe in organized religion and that being spiritual and being religous are different and he’s marrying us (neither of us go to church… ever.). Just a thought.
Otherwise, you can get a friend to get the certification online and they could marry you for free. =)
Post # 4
Wow you’re lucky you have a pastor like that! lol
I haven’t had ANY luck with church/religion/priests/pastors in my LIFE so that wasn’t even an option to be honest.
But I actually think we found someone — a mayor of a nearby city offered to do it for a $50 donation to one of her favorite charities.
Thanks for the suggestion though!
Post # 5
@Stace126: Oh that’s good! I just wanted to give some suggestions and see if any of them would help! I’m glad you found someone. =)
Post # 6
If you’re actually interested in it, a Quaker marriage is a self-uniting marriage. The bride, the groom, and two witnesses sign the marriage license as opposed to the bride, the groom, and the officiant. And you do not need to be a Quaker to do this. Plus, it’s FREE (other than the license fee, of course).
I’m planning on a self-uniting ceremony next May. This thread explains it a bit more. But it seems that the OP hasn’t revisited in a while.
Self uniting ceremony
Also, this PG story from a few years ago…
Post # 7
I’ve been considering the self-uniting ceremony but then I feel like I still need someone to speak and carry the ceremony… and I don’t know who I would have do that…
I’m also having trouble finding an officiant in the burgh!