- 5 years ago
Has anyone had a really bad or uncomfortable wedding officiant experience? I think I may have been traumatized but what happened during my wedding ceremony, and I could really stand to hear how other people handled similar situations. Honestly, there were a bunch of little things that went wrong on the day, but this is the one that really left an impression on me!
We met with our officiant prior to the ceremony and he was great, exactly what we wanted – and it was definitely a challenge to find someone just based on reviews online. We wanted to find someone who truly seemed to get us and could lead preparing the ceremony while incorporating in our personal elements. My fiancé and I spent a long time coming up with our portion of the ceremony, and I think it eloquently expressed how we felt about each other (I’m not normally a mushy person, and he’s not much of a writer, so this was a big win and very special for us).
So at the ceremony day of he starts telling the story of how we met “playing soccer” (we met playing volleyball). He then continued by taking just the very last part of an anecdote about us we sent him, which was completely confusing to everyone. Then he tried to describe us and said that I am very opinionated and the groom is very patient with me (this from a line we wrote that took all of our qualities and balanced them against each other in which, yes, we say that but put them in a much larger context). Then he proceeded to skip over everything we wrote about each other. My fiancé said that later he saw a paper with what we sent him, huge Xs through everything. Finally, he completed the ceremony by doing a new-agey ritual with a rock.
The whole ceremony was about 5 minutes long. He said nothing of what we wrote, except a couple things taken grossly out of context. I could see people stifling laughter throughout, and after the fact it’s the #1 thing people ask me about. I’ve been asked if he mixed up his ceremonies, if we’ve ever even met him before, and if he was drunk.
The rest of the wedding was beautiful, but I honestly dread talking about it with people because I worry that people are just thinking about the ceremony and whether they’ll bring it up.