Post # 1
So I am days away from our wedding and I am thinking I may have made a giant faux pas by neglecting to invite our officiant to our reception. Our officiant was someone we found online through good reviews and have had two or three phone calls with, have never met in person.
We are having a short, secular ceremony and we are not having a rehearsal. I didn’t realize until last week that many people send invitations to their officiant, and I didn’t even think to send her one.
Do you think she will expect me to informally ask her to stay for the cocktail hour and reception? Is it rude if I don’t?
Post # 3
I always heard that you only invite the officiant if it’s someone you personally know, like a friend or your pastor. If you found them online and are limiting your interaction to this wedding, then they probably aren’t expecting an invite to the reception.
Post # 4
We verbally invited our officiant and her husband. They only stayed long enough to grab a bite to eat. We did food stations/buffet so feeding an extra person or two didn’t impact our cost at all. It really depends on what you want to do.
Post # 5
If it was your pastor or something I would say you should invite them, but in this situation I don’t think it’s necessary. My brother and sister-in-law did the same thing as you and found their officiant online and had no personal relationship with him. They invited him to the reception and he declined, so I wouldn’t worry about it too much!
Post # 6
Okay, thank you!! I feel a little better about it. I’m hoping to avoid awkward moments that day!