(Closed) Officiant issue

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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3170 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Can you not change the date of your wedding? Instead of whatever date you chose in May.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

When we got married we had an officant do the entire thing. So the thing is, I think, that if the officiant isn’t there to witness it, then it wouldn’t be legal because that is her position. However, You can get the brother legalized to do it, and I think it is a fairly easy process, therefore you wouldn’t need an outside officiant at all.

I personally wouldn’t have done the legally married thing the day before, thats just me. I think the entire day was so special because it was the first time I heard any vows or promises to one another. But perhaps it would just be signing the day before, in which case, wouldn’t be that big of a deal. Hopefully someone else has more info.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Also, I think doing it the day before would be a little odd. Only because I would wonder which one should be my anniversary date. I would want them to be the same.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

If you can afford to get another officiant then I say do that. My husband and I are already married, we saw each other the day we got married but it was a very small  ceremony. We are doing the BIG wedding in september and we dont want to see each other the day off either, its a preference. Which is why i say if thats what you know you want then get another officiant

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Have your brother get ordained online. We used American Marriage Ministries and it’s fine in all 50 states and free–you do have to check your state’s laws, sometimes the officiant has to register or something before performing it. I actually got ordained too, just because I was bored while sending in our officiant’s information. We had a friend’s dad marry us, and he did a fantastic job. 

That way, no problems with the “legal” vs “actual” ceremony, and you’re all good 🙂

Post # 11
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3885 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

At only $125 I’d just take the loss and hire someone new.

Post # 12
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315 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 1997

“Is the separate signing of the marriage just a personal ethical thing, or would no officiant allow us to do that?”

In my state it is a ethical thing, no officiant would allow you. However, did you sign a contract with your Officiant? Is the full amount non-refundable or just the booking fee? I know that I do not refund booking fees, but I do not ask for full payment until the wedding day. But if the couple moves the wedding date and I can not make it to the ceremony at the scheduled time then I will bend over backwards to accommodate them after their “ceremony” time.

As for being ordained, yes, it is easy and simple. It is just an online form and it cost nothing. Your state may need a letter of good standing, that can be obtained for a small fee.

Good Luck.


Post # 13
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246 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

have you seen those cute pic of bride and groom in door ways so they can’t see each other but they are next to each other? could maybe do something like that and get married not seeing each other and hold hands or something

 

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Star123:  an officiant can not leagally marry you and sign the paperwork if she does not hear you say your vows and pernouce you husband and wife. All states are different but in NV officiants can be criminally prosecuted for not following the rules set out for them.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Star123:  There shouldn’t be any legal issues, but check your state laws/call your county clerk, because some states (or perhaps it’s county? not sure) require your officiant to register with them before doing it. We live in Texas, and it was fine. Yep, we used American Marriage Ministries, and pretty much immediately after filling it out (very easy too, just name/address, etc), you’re ordained. Plus, after the state files it, it really doesn’t matter either way (ours is already filed and back with us!). Good luck! 🙂

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