Post # 1
Man I’m full of etiquette related questions tonight! Am I expected to invite our officiant to our reception? It’s a non-religious ceremony (although he is an actual reverend) and both the ceremony and reception are taking place at the same venue, pretty much one right after the other. Am I supposed to invite him?!
Post # 3
You should check with the officiant but a lot of ones that aren’t in a religious ceremony don’t require you to invite them to the rehearsal dinner. Mine actually preferred not to so they could keep their costs down.
Post # 4
If you want you can, but you don’t have to. It just depends on how close to him you are and what the general traditions are in your area.
Post # 5
Ummmm general traditions? We don’t really have traditions in Canada! LOL! We’re too open and polite to say you have to do something one way or the other most of the time!!! I felt awkward asking him if he wanted to stay for the reception (or if he had an expectation to) although I will definitely be asking him to stay for the rehearsal dinner the night before because that’s just my good old polite Canadian way. BUT at the wedding if I can get away with not paying for another plate of food and having to find a table to sit him at, I’d be fine with that.
Post # 6
Oh I misread the question! I don’t think you have to invite them to the reception at all!
Post # 7
I asked my Future Mother-In-Law about this, and she had a good point- you’re paying this guy to provide a service. As long as he’s not your long-time reverend who you’ve known for years, I don’t think it’s necessary to invite him. Our ceremony and reception are back to back at the same location, and we’re not inviting our reverend. He’s a very nice man, but we just met this guy. He’s a vendor, not a guest.
Post # 8
Good point SugarSweetPink! Alright, nice reverend is wonderful, but you’re correct, not a friend, he’s a vendor. Thanks ladies!
Post # 9
i’ve always heard that you are supposed to invite the officiant. maybe it’s just a jewish thing… we invite the rabbi. but my friend just invited her officiant to her reception too, and she’s not jewish.
Post # 10
We’ve definitely invited the rabbi to join us. Of course, he’s traveling 2 hours to perform the ceremony, and the reception is immediately after in an adjoining room.
Post # 11
I’ve always heard that it is the proper thing to do to invite them and their spouse to the reception as well as the ceremony, even though they are considered a vendor.