(Closed) Officiant staying for cocktail hour?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Hmm – I think according to etiquette you are supposed to extend an invitation to dinner to your officiant. A drink seems reasonable! We’re getting a friend to marry us – so he’s staying for the whole reception.

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I thought you always invited the officiant and spouse to the reception. 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Yes, I’d always read that you are suppose to invite your officiant to the reception.

Ours was a close friend that was already coming, so no issue there! 🙂

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Before inviting our officiant for dinner he said not to bother as he has another wedding at 6, so I think the norm is to invite them as per his assumption we’d invite him!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

We invited our officiant and her husband to stay for the reception. I don’t know what yours charges, but ours receives a pittance and we feel it’s the least we can do for her besides adding a hearty tip to her fee. She’s also a lovely woman, and I like the idea of the person who’s marrying us sticking around to join us in our celebration.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Kind of an annoying comment. I understand why it would put you off a bit, but I do think it’s traditional to invite them as PP’s have said.

Ours is a close friend so he and his wife and kids will all be coming.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

My Officiant is charging $750. I like her, but I’m not feeding her on top of that. If she’s a hired professional you are under no obligation to invite. If it’s a family friend/member of your church it’s a nice gesture to.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Yes that’s very normal I think.  I’ve even seen priests at coctail hour.  I’m not sure if they stayed the whole night but definitely at cocktail hour.  I think it’s polite to invite them!

Ours was family so of course his family was invited.

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