- 8 years ago
- Wedding: December 2010
So to make a long story short, my fiance’s oldest brother is a pastor. He did the ceremony for my older sister just this past July. After the wedding, a lot of people (especially from my side of the family) were gabbing away at how unprofessional things were, not only with the pastor, but with other things, like the timing, traditional greeting of the parents..etc etc..So anyways, my parents don’t want my fiance’s oldest brother to perform the ceremony. They think he’s going to foul up for my wedding, like he did for my sister’s (which obviously I don’t agree with.) I thought he did well, especially when there was no rehearsal or anything told to him on what to do, where to be, etc etc. This was my sister’s fault. She didn’t prepare him…So now here’s the dilema..
My fiance and I asked his oldest brother to be the officiant for our wedding, but my parents want to ask my cousin’s husband, who is a pastor that is much more experienced blah blah blah…The only thing is that I don’t really have a great relationship with him…Plain and simple, I don’t like him all that much…there have been times where him and I were not on good terms, either because he embarrassed me in front of my friends, or would get annoyed with me over something so stupid…I just don’t like him…
So I’ve tried to convince my family that it wasn’t my fiance’s brother’s fault…but they just won’t listen to me. They want it THEIR WAY, and I don’t know what to do…honestly I don’t. I’ve already spoken to my fiance about this and he says that he wants me to kind of figure this one out on my own, since my parents are paying for the whole thing anyway. This is where it gets tricky, because obviously we HAVE to listen to my parents now…since they paid for most of the wedding…It’s not like we’re not going to pay them back for what they gave us, but honestly, this is my wedding and I don’t want a pastor that I’m not on good terms with. Would you want to either? Seriously, I might have to go to my sister now and ask her to talk to my parents…They’ll definitely listen to her. With me, they’ll never listen to me. This might be the only way to get them off my back…Oh geeze..
Help bees…any advice? anyone with similiar problems?