Post # 1
Is it common to invite whoever officiating the ceremony spouse? The guy who is doing our ceremony is a friend of my late mother and we picked him b/c of that. However, I do not know his wife that well just a casual hello here and there. But should I invite her just so he wont be alone ( b/c he is staying to bless the food) and if so should I send an invitation or just word of mouth?
Post # 3
Yes, I think you should invite her. She may not come, but it’s polite and a nice gesture to include her, especially since the officiant will be there for at least part of the reception.
Post # 4
Do you think I should send an invitation?
Post # 5
Although not necessary, I think it would be a nice touch to send both of them an invitation.
Post # 6
I think a verbal invitation would be sufficient, in this case, although a formal invitation would be a nice gesture.
Post # 7
@soon2bnixon: Yes, since she is the wife of your late mother’s friend. The invite in this case is usually a note card with the invite personally wrote by you.
Post # 8
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Emily Post (my fall back on all wedding etiquette) says she’s invited.
Post # 9
I’d invite her. We invited our pastor and his wife, and they politely declined.
Post # 10
You must always invite married couples as a unit, officiant, friend, or relative. I say send them a physical invitation.
Post # 11
Yes. My officiant is a close friend of mine. I really don’t know his wife at all, but she is invited as well. He’s a friend of mine, and I want him at the reception and it would be rude to not invite his wife.
Post # 12
@futuremrsfitz18: That’s pretty much my opinon on the matter. I’m sure they won’t intrude.
Post # 13
Thanks ladies for your advice. I didnt think she would intrude, I was just wondering if it was expected. We have very limited space so but I will probably just send an invitation as stated.
Post # 14
Yup, our officiants wife is invited and attending.