(Closed) Oh and can you (the pregnant lady) bring the alcohol? What?! Vent…

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

What are you mad about? The cost or the inconvenience?

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I don’t really think it’s unusual to ask a pregnant woman to bring something she won’t consume. I mean, I always supply soda at parties even though I don’t drink it. I brought wine to parties when I was pregnant, even though I wouldn’t be drinking it.

I do think it’s unfair that you seem to be doing the majority of planning, purchasing, and overall work that goes into the party. Who brings what needs to be delegated more fairly.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I completely agree with you–it’s weird to ask a pregnant woman to buy the alcohol!  Especially given the fact that you’ve planned and bought so much other stuff.  I think you’re in the right here.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

Unless buying the alcohol means that you’ll be spending way more than the other ladies I don’t see what the issue is. I mean you can’t eat coldcuts either, if she asks you to pick up a sandwich platter are you going to refuse?

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

How come the other BMs aren’t bringing anything?

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Yeah – I agree with the OP here – that is a bit odd.  If the OP was doing NOTHING else, then maybe…..but I think it is a bit tacky to ask the lady who can’t drink to bring the drinks.  

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

Not pregnant, nor have I been pregnant – but I am with you on this 100%. Unless it’s a situation of everyone bringing a dish and a bottle of something (and even then, you should be able to bring something you can actually consume), then there’s no reason the pregnant Bridesmaid or Best Man should have to supply the alcohol for everyone else to get drunk on when you can’t partake at all. Especially when you’re planning/doing/bringing so many other things.

 

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I’m pregnant and I still show up to parties with a bottle or two of booze. If the problem is you spending way more time/money than the other girls, speak up, but don’t pull the pregnancy card!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

do I think it’s weird to ask a pregnant woman to bring alcohol to a party? No.

Do I think i’ts unfair that they are asking you to bring alcohol ON TOP of what you are already doing/bringing, which is pretty much everything? Hell YES!

There is no reason that they cannot bring the alcohol,especially since you have done everything else.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Christie: I agree, it’s weird that they don’t ask someone else to do it! It’s kind of rude to expect one person to do so much, and then to bring something she’s not even going to drink on top of it!

OP, I would tell the other BMs (and MOH) that you’re at the end of your limit when it comes to helping out for this one event.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Agree with the others. Ask them to supply their own alcohol, you’ve done enough.

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

If you usually drink alcohol prior to being pregnant then I dont see anything wrong with someone asking you to bring alchohol since its not somthing you usually avoid for religious/health reasons. But since you are bringing dessert and other things, maybe someone else should bring the alcohol

Post # 16
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

When I read the title of your post, my initial thought was that you were upset at being seen in public purchasing alcohol when you are pregnant.

It seems that this has more to do with money  than pregnancy and I’m glad you told them you have done your share.

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