Post # 17
I think laying everything on you is rude. I don’t see a big deal in them asking because I think if you aren’t showing yet it not going to matter, but if you had a big tummy and go to buy wine or vodka people would be looking at you like you are insane. You aren’t the maid of honor and she seems to be slacking. Tell her no you can’t, and leave it up to her.
Post # 18
Yeah I’d think that if you weren’t bringing anything OR you were ok with hosting and therefore providing everything, then asking you to bring the alcohol, pregnant or not, is fine. But since you aren’t OK with having to supply it all and no one else is bringing anything (seriously? how did they get away with that anyway?), it’s totally reasonable to ask someone else to handle that aspect.
Post # 19
I don’t see a problem with a pregnant person supplying alcohol, if that (financial) contribution is equal to the one that the other BMs are making. But, it seems you have put in more than your fair share. More than my BMs would even think about doing. So, you’ve got enough on your plate. The other BMs need to freaking step up! Sounds like they’re a bit slack, if you ask me.
Post # 20
What does being pregnant have to do with it? Having a bun in the oven doesn’t render your feet useless when you approach a liquor store. If it is about the $$ then make it about that, don’t pull the pregnancy card.
Post # 21
I’m going to disagree I think if someone is showing its going to weird for them to go buy booze.
Post # 22
@Littlebean912: I agree with you here. Given the fact that you’re doing SO much other stuff, it’s a little presumptuous that the Maid/Matron of Honor is expecting you to bring the alcohol for everyone to bring too. Especially if there are girls who aren’t doing anything. You shouldn’t be responsible for supplying everyone with everything they’ll need for the night. The fact that you’re pregnant is just icing on the cake. It would be one thing if the alcohol was the only thing she asked you to bring, but you’ve done so much already. Good for you for sending a text back asking for someone else to bring that.
Post # 23
I think it’s rather insensitive moreso than weird and/or unacceptable.
1. You’ve been planning EVERYTHING from the sound of it. Plus, you’re already bringing a ton of stuff. It doesn’t sound like the other ladies are doing as much.
2. There’s nothing wrong with a pregnant lady buying liquor. However, they know you’re pregnant. They know you can’t drink. They know you’ll be stuck as the only sober person around a bunch of drunk people.
Asking you to bring something you cannot enjoy yourself is rather insensitive. If you volunteer to bring it, that’s different from being asked. Which are the examples some of the PPs mentione.
Post # 24
I think it’s inconsiderate of her to ask when you’re doing so much other stuff if no one else has done anything… (What did the Maid/Matron of Honor do or will she bring? What about all the other BMs). But this has nothing to do with being pregnant.
Post # 25
Reading people’s posts have helped me kinda sort out where my initial reaction of “what?!?!” has come from.
Everyone is right when they say there is nothing wrong with me bringing alcohol for a party or going to someone’s house to bring a bottle of wine. Money isn’t even a factor in all this for me. I love my friend and I want her to have the time of her life, but my feelings are directed solely on the other bridesmaids and her Maid/Matron of Honor. Really where my exasperated feelings stem from is being the provider of everything to eat, drink, and even where to sleep. I don’t regret telling the MOH no, I just hope she follows through with things for our friend.
Post # 26
I completely agree with you. It sounds as if you are doing a lot of the work for this party. You would think the Maid/Matron of Honor would step it up! It sounds as if its more upsetting that it seems as if no one else is doing anything and you are running the show and then the Maid/Matron of Honor asked you to bring and do even more things than you are already doing.
Maybe the Maid/Matron of Honor is trying to have more of the power with this event since it seems like you are doing so much making the Fbook groups organizing it etc. So she was asking you to buy more stuff to try and regain the power. Maybe that just makes her feel better about the situation.