(Closed) Oh, Baby? When to TTC?

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I don’ think there is ever a perfect/ right time to have a child. No matter when it happens your whole world will change. As far as age goes, they don’t consider you high risk until 35 years. After 35 you get more ultra sounds and genetic tests.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Just to respond to your worries about your and your husbands age: I am currently pregnant with my first child(ren – it’s twins.)  I’m 34, my husband is 42 and we conceived on our 3rd cycle of trying. My mom had (healthy) children in her 20’s, 30’s, and 40’s! 

So unless you already have medical problems that might affect TTC, try not to worry about the age part of it.  I know it’s hard – I worried ALL THE TIME that I would have trouble conceiving because I was so “old” in fertility years. 

Waiting a year or two shouldn’t make much of a difference.  Hang in there!

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

If you’re only having to wait about a year to achieve all those things, I would definitely just wait. I was expecting you to say that you wouldn’t be out of school for 4 years or something – 1 year is not a big deal, fertility-wise. Wait until things have stabilized, then start trying.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

@christalynn11: 1-2 years wait will almost certainly not make a huge impact. 3-4 years could, but still not likely. It all depends. Between 30-35 your eggs decrease in quality and number and other risks can go up. But it is a pretty small percentage that are affected.  After 35 you are looking at much higher risks and difficulties as your age increases. Don’t be scared about your age, though. 30 is young. I’m 33 and just now trying to have a baby. I have all sorts of issues, but none are necessarily age-based. Women in their 20’s can have problems and many women in their 30’s have NO problem getting pregnant. I would talk to your doctor about it. Of course, this is your decision but if I were you I would wait a few years. I wouldn’t want to have a baby without being financially ready. Yes, people say there is “no perfect time” to have a baby. Well, I’d rather be debt free and have savings and feel financially ready beforehand. That’s just my two cents. I know what it feels like to want a baby, though!! What does your husband think about waiting or trying now?

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’m in a similar place (also 30, also seeing a more financially good life in 1-2 years which is when I expect to get a full time permanent teaching job after ‘waiting’ for 5 years now…. also wanting to TTC now anyways).  I was all ready to start, and then I saw Suzy Orman on Oprah telling that single chick who had the 13 kids or whatever that she has been financially irresponsible in her decision to have these kids.  I did a 180 and decided to wait.  (But I am honestly still justify this to myself and could change my mind before then!)

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@Jenn23, you helped me too. 

 

I’m wondering with this ‘age’ thing, if the ‘true age’ (if you watch Dr. Oz) is the age we should be looking at.  He talks about how even though you can have the chronological age of x, your lifestyle can make your body ‘older’ or ‘younger’ than that. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

I think your plan is smart, getting out of CC debt before you have a baby- especially since you are still pretty young.  If you are concerned you could always talk to your OB to see if there is any reason you might want to start sooner.  You could also start charting and learning your body in the meantime so when you are ready your chances of getting pregnant sooner will go up!

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

@christalynn11: That sounds like a great plan to pay down the debt and reduce the money stressors! 🙂

@cvbee: I never saw the Dr. Oz true age thing. I’ll have to check it out. Sounds interesting!

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