(Closed) oh bees i feel horrible =(

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1691 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

is there any chance it didn’t make it there with you and it’s somewhere hiding at home??

Post # 4
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2098 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Was it engraved? How old was it?

 

Buy a new one. Offer to engrave it if theirs was. Buy a small wedding cake. Deliver it to them, with a face to face apology. Offer to monetarily replace the one you lost and give them the new one. 

 

You might be surprised. I bought mine at an antique store. It looks 30+ years old. It looks sterling. It looks like its been in my family for years. It was $5 & it’s silver plated! They may not mind & laugh it off. But in the end, they allowed you to borrow it. You lost it. You try to replace it the best you can. That’s all. 

 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@newname_99:  Honestly, since their wedding was so recent, I think it will be OK.  If they have been married for 60 years and use it every year, it may be different.  I don’t think they would have leant it to you if it was that special to them.  

I agree with trying to replace it in whatever capacity they like.  I think they’ll understand how crazy it all is at the end of the day.  Good luck!

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@newname_99:  Then, you didn’t lose it. Your wedding coordinator did. 

 

Just be honest and tell them and offer to replace. 

Post # 8
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1299 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@newname_99:  Can you call the place you got married… if it was sent to be cleaned maybe it is still in their kitchen?  I really like the PP about buying them a small wedding cake too.  It adds a special touch to your apology (if it comes to that)

Post # 10
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1299 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@newname_99:  I wasnt sure if maybe calling to see if it got placed in the kitchen inadvertently would be anything you could do.  If it were me I would ask who had it last.  I wouldnt let it rest.  I guess you can tell your neighbors you will continue to call and pester them too.

Post # 11
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525 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@newname_99:  Honestly, accidents happen. You didn’t mean to lose it, and by the sounds of it, you didn’t – someone at your venue did. If it were mine, yes, I’d be upset it got lost, but I would completely understand.

You said it looked expensive – is there any chance it was stolen? I’d call the venue and ask them again, and if you find out the replacement value from your neighbours, I’d ask the venue to pay for it. You never know – it might turn up after that.

Post # 13
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525 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@newname_99:  Omg, so, the cake server, and the top layer of the cake went missing too? Did someone get hungry and need the cake server in order to have a snack? lol.

I think that’s a great plan to ask who was working that night and avoid accusations. I do hope it turns up and it was just misplaced, but if it doesn’t, you have definitely done everything you could to track it down.

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

eek that’s horrible! However, if it makes you feel any better, I personally wouldn’t loan anyone something that had lots of sentimental value that had the potential to be lost.  A wedding is one of those times where it’s possible things you brought with you don’t make it home.  It’s upsetting (and they may be disappointed a bit), but rest assured if it meant that much to them they likely wouldn’t have let you borrow it. 

Post # 16
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243 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Try calling the hotel and give a description and talk about the importance of it. They might be able to find it. 

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