(Closed) Oh Boo, this certainly is depressing

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Aw, I’m sorry, I hate bickering about silly things! 

As for the ring getting stuck, in the future, Windex is the best thing to get a stuck ring off. Seriously, it works!!

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Um, wow, I think he blew it way out of proportion.  It was an honest mistake and could have easily been brushed off.  Is there something going on that might be bothering him that caused him to lose his temper like that??

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

All sounds pretty normal! Let him cool off and I’m sure you guys will be back on track soon. It does suck that it happened on a holiday, so maybe make it up to him with a really awesome cupcake or something cute.

Post # 6
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46402 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I honestly can’t believe some of the things people fight about! Hopefully his blowing up at trivial things won’t become a pattern.

Post # 7
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2854 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We will occassionally fight about stupid stuff, too.

On occassion, Fiance has been super short with me when he gets home from work. He is really unhappy in his current situation. He takes a breather, and then apologizes. (At least once, the apology took me by surprise, because my reaction was just “OK, whatever, you just had a bad day.”) I’ve done the same.

Most of the couples I know do this – and I just say most because I’m sure I’m not aware of what goes on in many friends’ relationships. I think with a little time you’ll (your relationship, not you-you) be able to “walk it off”.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

During my last disastrous marriage our couples therapist told me I needed to back off and give my husband time to cool down when he got that upset. I was like you and thought calm talking was healthier. I was willing at that point in our marriage to try anything. The deal was after he cooled down we would later talk it over. It never happened that way to say the least. Sometimes good advice is impossible with people who want to stay angry or be uncooperative. It doesn’t sound as if your situation is like that at all though. It sounds like it might actually help with your guy. As long as he doesn’t just sweep it under the rug and leave it unresolved to you later. It was hard but I could usually give him space but what hurt was never resolving it….it was like a revolving door. Left unresolved the same thing would happen over and over.

Like other posters said I wonder if something at work may be bothering him? I do feel his words were very unkind to you. I had relationships for years where I heard things like that. If an apology was given I could write it off to bad temper and feel better. Or in lieu of an apology if I could tell they felt badly about it…some men would rather lick a toilet than apologize. I’m blessed that FH is very careful about what he says to me due to his past. And he is just very sensitive like me.

I hope your Valentines Day gets better. If not remember it is just a sort of silly holiday. I’m wondering if my FH will even acknowledge it. I’m hoping he does. He was broke on my birthday but after hearing all the elaborate things he did for his ex I’m sort of hurt that he doesn’t do that for me. VERY hurt actually. Keeping fingers crossed. Your post helped me remember that real things happen to real couples regardless of the “holiday”.

 

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