(Closed) Oh, brother…

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Wow…I don’t know what to say. The fact that he’s 21 and doing this, I can’t seem to wrap my mind around it.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

To be honest that’s what popped into my head, thought it would explain it all, but I guess not. And the family deals with this? He’s in for a rude awakening when he enters the real world.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

He needs to stop being coddled…. time to grow up.

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Your SO is so kind-hearted.  (To a fault, lol).

Keep helping him by pointing out his family’s dysfunctional behavior each time it occurs, the same way you did this time.  Contrasting your rationality and logic with their craziness will help him see the truth about them for himself.  Don’t give up – because it might take time and patience on your part to accomplish helping him see things more clearly and set healthier boundaries with them.  He needs to learn that he can love them and put limits on them at the same time.  It’s not an “either-or” situation.

I know it puts you in a difficult spot sometimes having to deal with all this.  But when we love someone we get their family along with them.  

You’re handling everything remarkably well.  Stay strong and hang in there. 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I feel for you, and all I can say about his brother is WOW! I think you are handling this situation as well as you can.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@OneOfTheseDaysAlice:  

You are a VERY nice person. I would’ve blown up a looong time ago. It sounds like your FH is handling it though; I guess his brother not waking up for him was his wake up call. Laughing I don’t think that makes sense. Oh well its Friday evening and I need to get off work like now.

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