(Closed) oh, crap! FI just invited 2 kids to our no-kids wedding… nightmare!!!

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
14181 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Just ignore it….and tell your friend to keep it on the down low. As in “nobody else’s kids are invited, so shhhhhhh” and leave it at that. I dobut anybody will have the gall to actually come up and say, “OMG my kids weren’t invited!!!!!!!!”

What’s done is done, just do a little damage control =]

Post # 4
375 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

It’s annoying, but don’t let it bother you. If other guests question you about it, simply state that the family had special circumstances and that they’re like immediate family to you and your Fiance (even if that’s a stretch) and leave it at that. 

Ps. As a mom, I love no kid weddings b/c they give me a real reason to get a babysitter ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 5
71 posts
Worker bee

If anyone says anything just tell them it was a last minute emergency and your fiance handled it.

Post # 7
443 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@oracle – we are so in the same boat! Two wedding party members have basically coerced us into having their kids (“if little puffkins can’t come, neither can I”) but because we are pushovers and because they’re really really good friends, we’re letting it slide. It’s kind of bad but we’re keeping it quiet quiet and if anyone has the nerve to say “hey, you said my kid couldn’t come!” we’re just going to say it was a last minute child-care emergency thing and since one parent was in the wedding party, blah blah, it couldn’t be avoided. Though by the wedding day, will anyone care? Probably not! 

@Miss Starry Night: too funny, we have had that response from sooo many moms – I am glad our wedding can serve as a weekend getaway for a lot of parents!

Post # 8
5822 posts
Bee Keeper

Or you could say that “You’re right, kids WEREN’T invited…” and leave it at that.  You don’t have to indicate that you said they could bring their kids, and guests may just assume they brought them without permission.

Post # 10
1892 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I would just play it off like you didn’t know they were coming. You don’t really owe your guests an explanation, after all it is your wedding. Don’t stress, try to relax and enjoy everything! Chances are others will just think they didn’t follow the rules.

We had planned on only our nephews being at the wedding (there are 3 and they are all in the ceremony), but all of FH’s aunts/counsins invited their kids!!! I’m sorry your also dealing with this but at least your guests tried to follow the rules and your FH ended up inviting them instead of your guests just added them themselves and not asking if it was ok. Your wedding is still going to be fabulous!

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