Post # 1
The person that’s somewhat responsible for Fiance and I meeting wasn’t going to be able to attend because they couldn’t find childcare for their 5 and 7 year old. FI and I briefly talked about how bummed out we were about it and pondered if we should have him just bring his kids. While I really wanted this person to go (he’s a friend and co-worker of FI’s), I told Fiance that the people who couldn’t bring their kids will be offended if we let older kids come. FI told me that this guy was going to talk to his sister in law to see if she could sit.
(We decided to only have immediate family’s kids – so there will only be one 3 year old and one 7 year old (my nephew and niece).
Well, Fiance just calls and says the sister can’t babysit because she has to work. So, I tell him, ok, let’s talk about this tonight. And he says – I already told him he could bring the kids.
Post # 3
Just ignore it….and tell your friend to keep it on the down low. As in “nobody else’s kids are invited, so shhhhhhh” and leave it at that. I dobut anybody will have the gall to actually come up and say, “OMG my kids weren’t invited!!!!!!!!”
What’s done is done, just do a little damage control =]
Post # 4
It’s annoying, but don’t let it bother you. If other guests question you about it, simply state that the family had special circumstances and that they’re like immediate family to you and your Fiance (even if that’s a stretch) and leave it at that.
Ps. As a mom, I love no kid weddings b/c they give me a real reason to get a babysitter 🙂
Post # 5
If anyone says anything just tell them it was a last minute emergency and your fiance handled it.
Post # 6
Thanks, guys… I was freaking out and wanting to vent to some friends but I thought I don’t even want them to know!! Thanks for confirming that I should just keep it on the low down. FI’s brother (who has 2 kids) isn’t going to make it, so maybe I can pretend those are they! 😉
Post # 7
@oracle – we are so in the same boat! Two wedding party members have basically coerced us into having their kids (“if little puffkins can’t come, neither can I”) but because we are pushovers and because they’re really really good friends, we’re letting it slide. It’s kind of bad but we’re keeping it quiet quiet and if anyone has the nerve to say “hey, you said my kid couldn’t come!” we’re just going to say it was a last minute child-care emergency thing and since one parent was in the wedding party, blah blah, it couldn’t be avoided. Though by the wedding day, will anyone care? Probably not!
@Miss Starry Night: too funny, we have had that response from sooo many moms – I am glad our wedding can serve as a weekend getaway for a lot of parents!
Post # 8
Or you could say that “You’re right, kids WEREN’T invited…” and leave it at that. You don’t have to indicate that you said they could bring their kids, and guests may just assume they brought them without permission.
Post # 9
@MightySapphire: oooh, you are brilliant. 🙂 🙂 🙂 besides, I certainly didn’t give them permission… hee hee.
Post # 10
I would just play it off like you didn’t know they were coming. You don’t really owe your guests an explanation, after all it is your wedding. Don’t stress, try to relax and enjoy everything! Chances are others will just think they didn’t follow the rules.
We had planned on only our nephews being at the wedding (there are 3 and they are all in the ceremony), but all of FH’s aunts/counsins invited their kids!!! I’m sorry your also dealing with this but at least your guests tried to follow the rules and your FH ended up inviting them instead of your guests just added them themselves and not asking if it was ok. Your wedding is still going to be fabulous!