Post # 1
My poor Darling Husband is making me crazy…it’s not totally his fault, as I blame part of it on the hormones, but ohh….
We are remodeling our house. I have stayed elsewhere as they have refinished the drywall (the dust is EVERYWHERE)….they just finished today, and my Darling Husband insists that I can come help clean up the dust tomorrow. Ugh….it is not that I do not want to help, but honestly, I have stayed elsewhere just to be completely safe, and if I’ve avoided it this long, then really. I’d rather just not be around that…plus, since I am growing OUR child in my body, then I think the least he could do is wipe up a little dust.
Also, anyway, I am very sensitive to dust and things like that and prone to end up with sinus infections, etc…obviously, I’d love to avoid that at any time, but particularly when pregnant.
Am I just being prego crazy? He is really just driving me crazy because he’s being so overdramatic about it and acting like I’m being completely crazy/selfish. I mean, honestly…I’ll be back to business as usual after this, so I think he could grant me this one thing…
Post # 3
I say mommy-to-be gets a free pass to stay safe and dust free.
Post # 4
@tnbellebee: “Also, anyway, I am very sensitive to dust and things like that and prone to end up with sinus infections, etc…obviously, I’d love to avoid that at any time, but particularly when pregnant. “
I’m with you. Plus, cleaning up dust can be hard work. I see from other posts you’re at about 12 weeks. I just prefer to be really paranoid about overworking.
Tell him could he please do it without you (even if that means paying/gifting a relative or friend to help) and as a big thank you you’ll gift him in some other way. ETA: I just realised “gift in some other way” might be taken to mean in the bedroom 🙂 but I actually meant preparing a favourite meal or buying him sport tickets, something like that.
Post # 5
Husbands can be just clueless about some of this stuff. When I was in my first trimester and found out I’m high risk, we were considering putting our home up for sale at that time. Darling Husband was insistent it be ready to be put on the market. So that meant painting and lots of it. He figured I should be able to help, and I didn’t feel comfortable with that. I searched everywhere on Google, there’s nothing saying paint fumes are harmful but there’s nothing saying they’re not either. I wanted to be extra careful.
The best advice I can give you is just make sure your Darling Husband feels appreciated. That’s what I tried to do with mine. He’s trying to make the home right for you both and your little one on the way. Keep communication open, make sure he knows your concerns, but also that he feels appreciated for the work he’s doing on your home.
Post # 6
Thanks ladies. I basically just told him that he could get mad at me, but I’m not doing it, period. I am just ready for it to be done so he will quit complaining about it!