Post # 1
My future mother in-law wants us to make my future sister in-law (Fi’s brother’s wife) a bridesmaid… I told her no because we are already uneven as it is. She wanted me to Drop one of my girls for her. Some of you bees will know this girl from the High heels issue/ crying at the super bowl. I’m putting my foot down with a solid NO! I just hope this doesn’t ruin my relationship with FI’s mom.
Post # 2
Noooooppeeee! Good! Maybe you could make his wife feel more involved in another way, are you close at all? Could always use another helpful voice/hand in wedding planning I’m sure 😊
Post # 3
Maybe invite her along to a female-family member thing…like asking all the ladies in the families to go get Mani/Pedis together. Then she’s specifically included and you extended the offer so you’re the good guy in the scenario.
but fully agree that YOUR bridal party is yours and it’s not up for debate or invitations from other people
Post # 4
I agree with PP – your bridesmaids are YOUR choice, but there are ways you can keep the peace! Maybe ask Future Sister-In-Law to do a reading or something? Talk to Future Sister-In-Law about it directly, let her know that the party is full, but you’d love to have her with you on the big day. She’ll be more obliged to understand than Future Mother-In-Law.
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
If it were his blood sister I would say you should…but his brother’s wife? Erm, why does she even care so much?
Post # 6
this girl is lucky to be invited there is no way I’m using her as advice for the wedding. I have several threads on her crazy
because she thinks it will mend the rift between the guys…
might do that!
future mother in law lives in Florida, I live in Massachusetts, future sister in law lives in California…. Other wise I’d do the Mani pedi thing.
Post # 7
Good on you, sometimes, sadly other people just can’t their own way allllll the time. What a shame! 😉 not.
Post # 8
I mean considering this gir didn’t want to invite me to her wedding there’s no way I’d let her be my bridesmaid.
Post # 9
Stay strong! It’s not FI’s moms wedding, it’s yours! I like the suggestions of involving her in other ways. Bachelorette party, shower, etc. but really, that’s up to you too.
Post # 10
No, no, no! Recipe for disaster! How many nightmare bridesmaid threads on here start with “I didn’t really want her in the wedding party, BUT…”
I’m not familiar with the high heels issue/crying at the super bowl. But it sounds like a good story, so I’m gonna look that up now….
Post # 11
oh this is a recipe for disaster and drama! You stay strong girl. Don’t let your Future Mother-In-Law dictate anything that is your choise. If you do, she’ll just continue to walk all over you!
Post # 12
both stories are a doozy.
it’s already drama sigh.
I’m going to have to try. Ugh. Thanks for the support!
Post # 14
- Wedding: April 2017 - City, State
Your bridesmaids are not a vehicle for Mother-In-Law to use to mend the rift between her sons, and if she really thought about it she might realize it has the potential to create an even bigger rift. Good on you for standing your ground on this.
Post # 15
So I kind of stalked you a little bit and found out the whole Future Sister-In-Law fiasco! You do NOT want that evil woman in your bridal party. Hell to the no! You aren’t going to be able to make that woman happy no matter what you do, so just don’t put her in your party. You’re going to be damned if you do and damned if you don’t, at this point. I like the reading idea.