(Closed) Oh hell no!

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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739 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Noooooppeeee! Good! Maybe you could make his wife feel more involved in another way, are you close at all? Could always use another helpful voice/hand in wedding planning I’m sure 😊

Post # 3
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372 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2017

Maybe invite her along to a female-family member thing…like asking all the ladies in the families to go get Mani/Pedis together. Then she’s specifically included and you extended the offer so you’re the good guy in the scenario. 

but fully agree that YOUR bridal party is yours and it’s not up for debate or invitations from other people

Post # 4
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326 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

I agree with PP – your bridesmaids are YOUR choice, but there are ways you can keep the peace! Maybe ask Future Sister-In-Law to do a reading or something? Talk to Future Sister-In-Law about it directly, let her know that the party is full, but you’d love to have her with you on the big day. She’ll be more obliged to understand than Future Mother-In-Law.

Post # 5
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2961 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

If it were his blood sister I would say you should…but his brother’s wife? Erm, why does she even care so much? 

Post # 7
Hostess
9152 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

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sumshine.dawn:  Good on you, sometimes, sadly other people just can’t their own way allllll the time. What a shame! 😉 not.

Post # 9
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410 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

Stay strong!  It’s not FI’s moms wedding, it’s yours! I like the suggestions of involving her in other ways.  Bachelorette party, shower, etc. but really, that’s up to you too.

Post # 10
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1550 posts
Bumble bee

No, no, no! Recipe for disaster! How many nightmare bridesmaid threads on here start with “I didn’t really want her in the wedding party, BUT…”

I’m not familiar with the high heels issue/crying at the super bowl. But it sounds like a good story, so I’m gonna look that up now….

Post # 11
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1580 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

oh this is a recipe for disaster and drama! You stay strong girl. Don’t let your Future Mother-In-Law dictate anything that is your choise. If you do, she’ll just continue to walk all over you!

Post # 14
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3590 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

Your bridesmaids are not a vehicle for Mother-In-Law to use to mend the rift between her sons, and if she really thought about it she might realize it has the potential to create an even bigger rift. Good on you for standing your ground on this.

Post # 15
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1580 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

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sumshine.dawn:  So I kind of stalked you a little bit and found out the whole Future Sister-In-Law fiasco! You do NOT want that evil woman in your bridal party. Hell to the no! You aren’t going to be able to make that woman happy no matter what you do, so just don’t put her in your party. You’re going to be damned if you do and damned if you don’t, at this point. I like the reading idea.

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