(Closed) Oh hell no!

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 16
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124 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

My Future Mother-In-Law tried getting us to add my FI’s cousing for our wedding party. Like on the phone with him for an hour about why he should be included even though we never talk to him. Our wedding party was uneven at the time but it was because our best man’s deployment got extended and we just wanted to hold that spot in honor of him. Nothing really came of it.

Post # 17
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

I think bridesmaids should be either blood relatives (and only sane ones) and your absolute closest friends.  As such, having someone who is merely an acquaintance or someone you tolerate because you’ll be kinda sorta related would be a huge disaster.  Stay strong and don’t allow it.  I can’t believe anyone feels they have the right to decide who stands beside the bride on her wedding day – that’s her choice and her choice only (with maybe a little input from the groom).

Post # 20
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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sumshine.dawn:  She seems like she has a lot of problems lol. this is your and your fi’s day. just remember that!

Post # 22
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313 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

If her “babies” are not getting along, she needs to sit THEM down and have a chat to them, not interfere with your bridal party! By the way, does she not know that sometime siblings have disagreements? It’s natural, sometimes it’s worse than others but it’s for them to sort out. Not you. Or her really. 

Post # 23
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955 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

This lady is NOT your Future Sister-In-Law. Technically she is nothing to you. She should not be in your wedding party.

Your Future Mother-In-Law needs to man up and talk to her children, she shouldnt be using you to do it. Can your Fiance talk to his mother and get her to back off?

 

Post # 24
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1808 posts
Buzzing bee

She should be hoping that her even asking doesn’t ruin her relationship with YOU. Appalling.

Post # 26
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124 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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sumshine.dawn:  That’s such a manipulative request. I am so sorry you’re dealing with this and these people. Also, your Future Sister-In-Law is really your FBIL’s wife, and therefore should not be having such an impact on your life. The gifts seem appropriate but keep standing your ground on this. Do you want to see her in those bridal party pictures the rest of your life?? lol

Post # 28
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2763 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Noooooooooooooooooooo! I remember the high heels incident. 

No x a million!

 

Post # 29
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

This happened to my FSIL! Her now Mother-In-Law demanded that she ask her now BIL’s cray cray wife to be a bridesmaid – she said no but did ask her to do a reading. The MIL’s argument is that all the siblings were being involved (FSIL’s had her 2 sisters as bridesmaids, whereas Future Brother-In-Law had his 2 brothers and my Fiance as groomsmen) so it was unfair to leave the SIL out. My Future Sister-In-Law pointed out that all of her siblings had long-term partners who weren’t included, and the Mother-In-Law responded that none of them were married so it’s not the same (it’s probably not, but still not her place to dictate who should and should not be in the bridal party).

My advice is to continue saying no! Don’t let your Future Mother-In-Law try and back you into a corner!

Post # 30
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

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sumshine.dawn:  You are such a nice person. If I were you I would NOT be getting her a present at all after all her nonsense, especially with the rude thank you note situation. 

Also, my Mother-In-Law suggested adding two of my husbands cousin’s to our bridal party. She was nice about it (though she had a hard time letting it go when I said no….), but I still refused. One I have mixed feelings about, and the other is really nice but I don’t know her very well, so I said no, and when she wouldn’t stop asking about it my husband told her no. There’s nothing wrong with having the people you want, and only the people you want in your bridal party. Especially with a manipulative mother in law like you seem to have, it’s best to nip such things in the bud. Stand your ground! 

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